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Let's Let Go of Our Ego | Khutbah
Let's let go of the most harmful element in ourself in order to hold firm the best version of ourself.
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This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings. I'm sorry. Two words. Sometimes it's so difficult to say it. Sometimes we have to really dig deep to say these words. But these words have a meaning behind them. The month of Ramadan is close. Even if it wasn't the month of Ramadan, we know that the akhlaq of the Muslim is 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It's something that the Muslim should be attentive of at all times. But these words, I'm sorry, even, even if you believe that you're still right, is an aspect of our iman that we have to consistently focus on. Can we just overlook our problem? You know, if I'm wrong and if I've wronged you, please forgive me. Islam is bigger than the both of us. We don't want the following generations to take on the problems that we've had. What was said in khutbah tul hajj and the sermon of need that I just mentioned earlier, be mindful of Allah and do not cut off relationships with your kin. Because brothers and sisters, it's important for us to let go of our ego. The healthy and spiritual trade off of letting go of our ego. We know that ego was what shaitan was full of. When he prohibited himself or did not want to prostrate to Adam. This is a sign from Allah of the kibber, of the arrogance that was full in shaitan because he didn't want to prostrate to Adam. Look at ourselves and see what are we willing to trade off. When we look at our ego. The ego is an example of someone or the definition of it roughly
is when someone is obsessed with themselves to where shaitan or their nafs, their desires can play with them. To where confidence can be arrogance. To where you're confident in who you are, but you start to be little of it. You're confident in who you are, but you start to belittle others and you use it as a means to strengthen your so-called confidence. It turns into arrogance. We know that the month of Ramadan as the Prophet said, That the shaitan are tied in chains. Meaning that the influence of shaitan may be minimal. But what are you doing Abdullah? You don't say, you know, I'm going to still be who I am in Ramadan even. Continue my challenges, my sins. I won't acknowledge it to sin or I do, but I continue because shaitan's locked up. But we still have the nafs of Marut and Bisul. You still have that portion of yourself that still calls you to do those things that you know are not good. That are not healthy for you. That are not healthy for your soul. That are not healthy for your relationships. It's important that we, subhanAllah, each and every one of us, that we have to look and ponder over our relationships. Let's start with our family. Each and every one of us may have a family member, and I'm using may, that we cannot just, we can't sit in the same room with. We have a family member that we may be jealous of because they wronged us when we were younger. They bullied us when we were younger and we haven't gotten over it. We haven't sought therapy to talk about it because we don't want to face the taboo of going to someone, to a therapist, to where people will look at us as sick or there's something wrong with us. We don't want to show it because we don't want to cause stress to everyone else, but it's still deep inside of us. We may have been the person that has wronged someone and we see the effects of that trauma that we have done
and only Allah, myself, and that person knows. We haven't stepped up to the plate as a real man or woman, Muslim, to dig deep and look beyond ourselves, our ego, our popularity, what we are known for, what we are respected for. But the basis of that respect is something false, counterfeit. It's not real because it's built on a satanic influence. It's built on an influence of ourselves and our desires, our shahawat. The Prophet ﷺ says a beautiful hadith and we've probably heard it in this month of Sha'ban, but it's a hadith that's speaking on the generality of Yawm al-Ithneen wa-Khamis. The Prophet ﷺ said, تُعَضُوا الْأَعْمَالُ إِلَى اللَّهِ كُلِّ اثْنَيْن وَخَمِيسٍ فَيَغْفِرُ اللَّهُ كُلِّ امْرِئٍ لَا يُشْرِكُ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا إِلَّا امْرَأً كَانَ بَيْنَهُ وَبَيْنَ أَخِيهِ شَحْنًا فَيُقَالُ أُرْكُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَ وفي رواية أخرى أَنظِرُوا هَذَيْنِ حَتَّى يَصْطَلِحَ The Prophet ﷺ said, The actions of the individual will be raised every Monday and Thursday. These actions will be raised to Allah every Monday and Thursday. And he forgives for every individual that does not associate partners with Allah except except the individual that is between him or her and his or her brother enmity, malice. So it will be said, فَيُقَالُ أُرْكُوا هَذَيْنِ إِثْنَيْنَ Hold off on those two until they make up. Hold off on them two until they make up. In another narration, he said it three times.
Hold off on i.e. forgiving them until they make up. Every Monday and Thursday. How many Mondays and Thursdays have passed and we see the person's name in WhatsApp? We see their name in a group, in Telegram. We see their picture in Facebook. We see them in the masjid. And we try our best to go the opposite direction. Because we don't want to face the reality of saying I'm sorry. We don't want to face the reality of digging deep within ourselves and making up because Islam is bigger than the both of us. We don't want to face the reality and think about the reality that my children, this ongoing feud between us will transfer over to our children. To where they will hate each other in the name of what? You notice how the Prophet ﷺ said that they will be forgiven except the one that بينه وبين أخيه Between him or her and his or her brother. Just think about that. We all subconsciously and inshallah more importantly consciously know that we do not know when Allah will take us off of this earth. How many times have we heard when people are on their deathbed or when they're on their bed and they know that their time is coming at any moment. Or you've been the individual to sit or stand there with them. And then they start to let out news that they've never told anyone. Or they start to say you know what you I've always been hard on you as my son or my daughter. But I've always loved you. Do we want to wait till that time? Because that time is majhool. We do not know how when Allah will take our soul. Allah gives us many opportunities to let go of our ego.
So let's start from today to ponder over our hearts. Our actions. Because with that the heart when it is solidified. When it is clean. When it is pure. When it is soft. When it is muncharih. When it is open to the haq. To the truth. Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will guide us inshallah. I say this and I ask forgiveness for the sins of the Muslims. So ask forgiveness for me as I am the Forgiver and the Merciful. And by Allah we may say sometimes from a good heart that I need a practical solution. And sometimes that can mean that Islam does not provide it. And when I say Islam I mean the Quran. The word of Allah. The implementation of the word of Allah being the sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. The ones that spent their lives to understand these two authoritative texts and sources being the scholars of Islam. We may say to ourselves sometimes I need something practical. But do we make the effort to seek the truth within these sources. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said something regarding this that's beautiful. Because it's important for us to let go of our ego in order to hold firmly to our Iman. That's the trade off. Let go of your ego to hold firmly onto your faith. Because when you let the ego grow within you and inside of you. It doesn't only hurt you brother or sister. It hurts the people around you.
Because sometimes if you're the father, if you're the mother you make your children take a side. If you're the close friend you make your other friends take a side. Because of something that you do not want to be uncomfortable with. We're comfortable with enmity. Think about that. We are comfortable with enmity towards another human being. And we know subconsciously Allah does not want that for us. Allah wants love. Or Allah wants tolerance amongst each other. You may not love, you may not be good friends with that person. But it's important to give them at least a greeting of peace and dua. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam he said. In another narration. There's a hadith in Abu Huraira radiallahu anhu. Where the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said. It is impermissible. Meaning that it is impermissible. Let's stop for a minute. Anything that is impermissible in Islam. It is something that will tear apart communities. Anything that is impermissible in Islam. It is something that will weaken the Iman. Anything that is impermissible in Islam. It is something that will compromise the yaqeen, the certainty. Between you and your Lord. When you continue upon that act of something that you know is impermissible. I.e. wrong. So when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said. It is impermissible that a brother or sister. Separates or someone that separates or distances themselves. From them more than three days. Another narration three nights.
If you have a problem with your brother or sister. You have an issue. You still believe that you're right. That's fine. But Islam is telling you. Overlook that. Look at the relationship. If it's something of the dunya. If it's something of the religion. That they said something about you. They wronged you. This happens. Not to belittle that. The person hasn't woken up and asked for forgiveness. But what about you? Look at ourselves and see how we can be better. Because you will go in front of Allah foradan. You will go in front of Allah alone. So the Prophet says here salallahu alayhi wasalam. It's impermissible for a brother to distance himself. From the brother or sister. From his other brother or sister. More than three days. And then he gives a definition. He says so this one turns his back on him or her. And the other one turns his back on him or her. You know we just hope that we don't see them at the gathering. And if we do. We're going the other direction. If they're east we're going west. I don't want to have to face the person giving me salams. Or I don't want to have to face giving them salams. I don't want to deal with it. You know because my personality is I'm non-confrontational. So insha'Allah, Allah will forgive me for this. And then he says the best of those. He gives a solution. He says the best of those is the one that starts with salam. That at least sends a text and says salamu alaykum. And the person is who, what, when, where, how. This person texting me. And we have a problem. They're going to start to think. Shaytan can't even play with that person. Why are they texting me? What do they want? Many of us that have come into Islam or those that have come back to faith. Isn't it so impactful when someone does something good for you and they don't want anything? What they want is something you can't provide. It is only what Allah can provide. When you reach the level of only wanting what Allah wants from you. You're not too concerned about what people think about you.
I.e., you're not concerned this person is going to think I'm weak if I give salams or say hello. Or come up and say salamu alaykum to them with a smile. No, this is salamatu sadr. Salamatu sadr. This is a pure, free heart. The day that nothing will benefit them. Money nor children. Except the person that comes with a pure, clean heart. And salama, Allah's name is as-salam, meaning free from any aib, any deficiency, any defect. There is no defect in your heart. I.e., envy, hatred, jealousy, malice. It's free because you're looking at the bigger picture. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, and subhanAllah, may Allah make us from the people of Jannah inshallah. May Allah make us from the inhabitants of Jannah. Jannah is a place that there is no lahw. There is no wasting of time. There is no lahw. There is no ill speech. There is no speech that is not pleasing to Allah. I.e., or even to the human being's soul, embeddement of their soul. Jannah is a place where there is no ghil. There is no malice. There is no hatred. There is no enmity. There is no adawa. There is no enmity and hatred towards another. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in a beautiful, beautiful verse in the Quran, in two verses. Firstly, when he says in the chapter of al-Hijr, when he talks about the statements of the people of Jannah. When he says, When he talks about the inhabitants of Jannah, and Allah uses two beautiful words that I want to capitalize on.
Because capitalizing on the beauty of Arabic, when we go deep into these meanings, we understand the intended meaning, which brings forth a human reality, therefore appreciating the Quran much more. Allah says, These two. He says, It means that we have extracted. But if we see in the chapter of Naziaat, Nazia means to pull something out with force, meaning that it may be difficult. It may be hard. Allah says, And we have extracted what was in their hearts. And ghil is an enmity that is deep in the heart. I hate my father. Because I've never known him. You have to dig deep, brother. You have to dig deep, sister. There was a brother I met, subhanAllah. He said, I forgave my father, but when he asked me to visit him, I couldn't do it. I don't want him to think that what he did was okay. You've got to dig deep. Each and every one of you have to ask yourselves, When am I going to take the shovel and dig deep in myself? No one else. When? And it's not one time. It's consistently. But guess what? Allah loves the struggle. And your struggle, your efforts, Allah appreciates it. It is something that is appreciated. So they will say in Jannah, Allah says, We have extracted from their hearts this enmity, Because this is not allowed in Jannah. This is not present. And then he says,
As brethren, as brothers or sisters, Upon beds, they are looking at each other happy. Happy. Nothing in their hearts. Nothing. Allah says in the chapter of Al-A'raf, When he speaks about this, he even gets deeper. And subhanAllah here in this verse, he uses the same words, He mentions another statement, he mentions a statement of the people in Jannah. And this is very important for us. Where Allah says, Allah uses the same beginning. And we have extracted out of their hearts this enmity. But then he says, And he says that the beneath them which rivers flow, meaning Jannah. But what do they say? All praises to Allah, the one that has guided us. But it doesn't stop there. We would never have been guided if Allah did not guide us. If I thought it was up to me, Then I am on a path of destruction. Why is this important? Let's take a step back. When you make an effort to please Allah, That action is an action of Iman. Therefore, increasing your connection with Allah. Meaning that your faith will increase. Which can mean, it can take you out of doubt. And bring you to a level of certainty. Or a level of being inquisitive.
But your path of seeking is a path of trust in Al-Hakim. And trust in the all wise. Each and every one of us have had a question. And we've asked God why. Each and every one of us. Why are my parents still separated and there's enmity? You may be the person that is outside but you are affected. You may be the person that has done the oppression. Looking at the guidance of Allah. When we let go of our ego. In order to hold firmly onto our Iman. What are we really concerned with? What are we looking at? What are we trying? Brother, sister, Allah is going to take each and every one of us. But the relationships, the enmity you have with that brother or sister that's still alive. It's still inside. We want that person or those people to at least say, You know what? He did reach out to me. There will be a day when that person sits alone and says, You know what? That person at least reached out. I can't even say I'm sorry to that person anymore. Make the effort brother, sister to write a letter, send a text, tell someone else, send a gift through Amazon. Something to dig deep and to look over your ego. To pass over it. To eliminate it. To lessen it. To weaken it. Because the opposite of the ego is humility. Humility towards Allah. Not humility to get respect or love from people. Humility towards Allah. And humility linguistically comes from Humus. And Humus means low to the ground. Oh Allah, I am low before you. You are my creator. My only goal is to do what you want for me. Each and every one of us have those moments, inshallah. We have to ask Allah to increase those moments.
And those moments are increased when your Iman, your faith is increased. But ask yourselves, what are you consuming yourself with? And i.e. I say yourself meaning your heart. Because that what you consume yourself with on your phone, on the computer, with certain people. The more you do it, the more it will consume you. And ultimately penetrate your heart. So brothers and sisters, let's make the effort. Especially this month of Ramadan coming up. To look over our ego and let go of those. Let go of that ego in order to hold firmly to our faith. To our love. To our certainty. To be closer with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. To where we will say Alhamdulillah ladi hadana. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala guide us. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us of those that are rightly guided. May Allah make us of those that continuously do the actions of guidance. In order to be with him. In order to be with the believers inshallah. May Allah make us of those that continuously do the actions of guidance.
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