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Don't Minimize Your Pain, Seek its Reward | Khutbah
Allah doesn't want us to minimize our pain, He wants us to use it to seek something greater with Him.
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This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings. Allah ta'ala ya ayyuhal ladheena aamanu ttaqullaha haqqa tuqatihi wa laa tamootunna illa wa antu muslimoon. Ya ayyuhal naasu ttaqu rabbakumu allathee khalaqakum min nafsin wahida wa khalaqa minha zawjaha wabatha minhuma rijalan kathira wa nisa'a wa ttaqullaha allathee tasa'aluna bihi wal arhaam. Inna allaha kana alaykum raqeeba. Ya ayyuhal ladheena aamanu ttaqullaha wa qoolu qawlan sadeeda yuslih lakum a'malakum wayaghfir lakum dhunubakum wa man yuta'ilah wa rasulahu faqad faaza fawzan azeema thumma amma ba'd. We begin by praising Allah subhana wa ta'ala and bearing witness that none has the right to be worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except for him. And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam is his final messenger. We ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him, his family, companions, and those that follow until the day of judgment. We ask Allah to make us amongst them. Allahumma ameen. Dear brothers and sisters, in the beginning of this week, two people that are very close to me lost their mothers. May Allah subhana wa ta'ala have mercy on them and accept them into his jannah. And may Allah subhana wa ta'ala allow them to feel comfort and to achieve the reward through patience. Allahumma ameen. And as you're talking to someone that is burying a loved one, it's very hard to convey any type of hope that's left in this world. And all of us that have been there with burying a loved one can relate to that. How do you say to someone that there is any type of hope or replacement left in this world? When Umm Salama radiyaAllahu ta'ala lost Abu Salama radiyaAllahu anhu and she prayed to Allah subhana wa ta'ala for something better, Umm Salama radiyaAllahu anha got the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But for most of us, that type of replacement in this world does not come. And what's usually left is a great void and if you don't treat that void properly, then what it could do is it could deplete
you to where you do not pursue happiness in this life or the next. But instead, you just kind of shut off. May Allah subhana wa ta'ala have mercy on our loved ones and may Allah subhana wa ta'ala gather us with them around the beloved sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Allahumma ameen. But then I started thinking about it from a greater perspective in terms of how we treat pain in the first place and how we achieve sabr. And the difference between patience, which is sabr, and ihtisab, which is to seek the reward. And the way that Imam al-Ghazali rahimahullah defined it so beautifully, he said that ihtisab is a sabr li rajaa thawab. It is patience that you seek a reward with. And so what defines or what graduates a person's patience, where they don't say anything. You know when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam saw the woman that was crying at the graveyard and saying things that were inappropriate, and he told her to be patient and she instead lashed out not knowing who he was sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He told her, as-sabr and as-sadmat al-ula. You don't have to worry about offending me. He forgave her right away. But patience is at the first strike. Patience is to hold yourself. It's habs. To restrain. Ihtisab is to seek the reward. To actually use that pain and that patience to propel you closer to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And there's something beautiful about that because it teaches us that one of the things that we do wrong when we try to make ourselves patient or make other people patient, is try to minimize their tragedy. Try to minimize their pain. Try to minimize their burden. As a way of putting things in perspective. Whereas in reality, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala does not want us to minimize our pain. Allah wants us to use our pain. To seek something greater with Him. And as I was going through the ahadith on this subject, I came across this longer narration in Kitab az-Zuhd, both with Imam Majid, with Ibn Majah,
and Imam al-Tirmidhi rahimahullah ta'ala. And it's a weak narration in its chain, but a profound wisdom. Where every meaning in it is so strong and reinforced by other ahadith. I just thought that it would be a beautiful one for us to reflect upon in these short moments today. Narrated from Abu Dharr radiallahu ta'ala anhu that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said, az-zahadatu fid dunya laysat bitahreemil halal wala idha'atil mal. walakinna az-zahadatu fid dunya anla takuna bima fiyadayka awthaka mimma fiyadayil la. The first part of it. This narration. That zuhd, asceticism in this world, is not that you forbid yourself from lawful money, from lawful income. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allows you to earn, nor to squander your money, not use your money, the halal that you earn, to use it in a way that pleases you in a halal way. That's not zuhd. That's not asceticism. Asceticism is not depriving yourself in self-afflicted poverty, putting yourself in a difficult situation, and calling that zuhd. But asceticism, he says, is that what is in your hand is not greater in your sight than what is in the hand of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. It's so beautiful. That what is in your hand is not greater to you than what is in the hand of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And the second part of this narration speaks to the musiba. He says, wa an takuna fi thawabil musibati idha anta usibta biha arghaba fiha law annaha This is so powerful. That you are more hopeful of the reward that comes from an affliction when you suffer from that affliction than if it would have remained with you. That you
are more hopeful in the reward that is with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala than even if it would have remained with you, meaning the affliction that you suffer remains. But the reward that you seek from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala puts the affliction in perspective. So it's not that the affliction is to be lessened. It's not that the pain is to be lessened. It's not that you're supposed to say, well, it's okay, you know, I'll move on. It's not that you are supposed to feel less hurt about it. It's that you take that pain and you convert it to dua. You convert it to supplication. You let it drive you to prayer. You let it drive you to seek a reward from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. That with every single diminishing in this world, you see an opportunity for increase in the next. That with every single disappointment in this world, you don't turn off from everything else. You see an opportunity or something to cause you to hope for what's in the next. It doesn't cause you to pursue this world in halal or to enjoy it in halal any less. It causes you to remain attached to what is permanent and what will outlive this world and to let that reward become your pursuit. And subhanAllah, we find this reinforced over and over and over again in ihtisab, in this practice of ihtisab, in this practice of seeking the reward, which is why the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam would say to the one when they lose someone beloved to them, فاصبر واحتسب. Any pain that you suffer in this world, be patient with it, meaning hold yourself back and then activate yourself in seeking the reward. Patience is not reacting in a way that would cause you to lose the reward of that affliction in and of itself. Ihtisab is taking that affliction and making it a means of elevation in the hereafter. And so enjoy what is in
your hands while it's in your hands, but don't ever let what is in your hands corrupt your heart or allow you to lose sight of what is in the hand of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Enjoy the blessings that you have in this life and do not seek affliction. Don't seek trial. Don't test Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Allah tests you. Don't seek pain. Don't disconnect from your loved ones because you say Allah is going to take them away from me one day anyway. Don't treat them any less. Don't have any less of emotion towards what Allah has brought to you in this life, but don't ever let it distract you or clout the place where loved ones are no longer separated and where we no longer have to just read about our beloved one sallallahu alayhi wasallam, but we can dine with him alayhi salatu wasallam and be in his perpetual presence bi'idhnallahi ta'ala in Jannatul Firdaus. Allahumma ameen. Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barika al abdika wa rasulika Muhammadin sallallahu alayhi wasallam wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wasallam. Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barika al abdika wa rasulika Muhammadin sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barika al abdika wa rasulika Muhammadin sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
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