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Umm Salama (ra): A Separated Family (Part 1)
The story of a blessed family that was the first to make 3 Hijrahs, yet was painfully separated more than once.
Transcript
This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings. Surah Al-Baqarah As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh everyone and welcome back to the first Bismillah walhamdulillahi wa salatu wassalamu ala rasulullah wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa man wala So tonight we begin bi-idhnillahi ta'ala with the story of a great woman who has a legacy that really extends far beyond SubhanAllah her time with the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam but at the same time, her story of entering into Islam and the unique trials that she faced like many others give us a lot of insights into the early struggles of some of these converts as well as some of the lessons that we can take for our own trials and tribulations and of course, once again appreciating the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam and how he dealt with these unique situations. Now with Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha we're really going to talk about her story in two parts. So we're going to have to separate this out InshaAllah ta'ala The first part is her life with Abu Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu her first husband prior to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam who has a great ranking himself. You know, we were talking about Ja'far ibn Abi Talib radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu being overshadowed by Ali ibn Abi Talib radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu talk about Abu Salama, you know how often have you heard of the story of Abu Salama who has a story himself that is worth its own biography. So we're going to talk about the early entrance into Islam of Umm Salama and Abu Salama and the painful struggle of this family to uphold what Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la had given to them. And then of course, the separation of these two more than once and then coming into the life of the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam through the marriage of Umm Salama radiAllahu Anha and then we'll talk about her legacy as such InshaAllah ta'ala from next week, bi'Ibn Nahi ta'ala. So let's talk about these two InshaAllah ta'ala and there's a lot of family connections for us to draw.
Her name is Hind bint Abi Umayyah ibn al-Mughirah Hind bint Abi Umayyah ibn al-Mughirah. She is from the tribe of Makhzum and if you have heard the tribe of Makhzum many times it's because it's the famous tribe of the likes of Abu Jahl and the likes of Khalid ibn al-Walid radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu so it's a powerful tribe as you know. It is a tribe that has something to do with much of the early rivalry with the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam. It is the tribe that tortured the family of Sumayya, Ammar, Yasir and it is a tribe that also produced some of the greatest companions eventually to the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam of course Umm Salama and Abu Salama both being from this tribe amongst Banu Makhzum. So her father Abu Umayyah was not just any Makhzumi he was not just any tribesman but rather he was the tribal chief of Banu Makhzum. He was known for his nobility, he was known for his generosity, he was known particularly for his hospitality to those that would come to Mecca for the various pilgrimages and festivals that would take place. So if you remember with Abu Jahl there was this idea of Banu Makhzum and Banu Hashim competing and a lot of that competition came down to hospitality. So Abu Umayyah was known as the one that would finance most of the hospitality on behalf of Banu Makhzum to those that would come to Mecca. So she grows up in this home of a noble leader. Now her brothers Amir, Abdullah and Al-Walid they're also companions of the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wasallam but she precedes all of her brothers to Islam. So Abdullah and Al-Walid would do hijrah later on and they would embrace Islam later on in the Madani period not in the early days of persecution in Mecca. And Amir would accept Islam at Fath Mecca,
the conquest of Mecca. And SubhanAllah one of the beautiful things about this is you have one of the situations where a brother is narrating a hadith from his sister. So many of the hadith that we have from Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha come through her brother Amir who would accept Islam at the conquest of Mecca. So she precedes all of her siblings to Islam but her three brothers would become Muslim. Her first cousin was Khalid Ibn Al-Walid radiAllahu ta'ala Anha. And if you think about the chain here you have Umm Salama Hind, Bint Abi Umayyah Ibn Al-Mughira Khalid Ibn Al-Walid Ibn Al-Mughira, right? So there's a cousin in Khalid radiAllahu ta'ala Anhum and Abu Jahl was her father's cousin. So she's not just from the same tribe as Abu Jahl who is the chief enemy of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam or of Khalid who would fight against the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam for most of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam's life in Islam but then become of course a hero in Islam. But she's also their direct relative. She's also, and this is a really interesting point SubhanAllah that sometimes could be lost. She is also the sister of Ammar Ibn Yasir through breastfeeding. Now remember there is Wila'a at the time where, and of course till now where lineage or rather brothers and sisters mahram relationships could be established through breastfeeding. So she is the sister of Ammar Ibn Yasir through breastfeeding. She is actually the one who narrates a very famous narration about Ammar Ibn Yasir radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu that Taqtulu Ammar al-fi'atu al-baghiya that Ammar radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu would be killed by the transgressing army. And she narrates this as the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is moving his fingers through the hair of Ammar radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. So it gives you some insight also into Banu Makhzum
where you have Yasir and Sumayya growing up and Ammar growing up amongst Banu Makhzum but of course never actually from Banu Makhzum because of their status. But she is related to Ammar Ibn Yasir radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu wa'an ahlihi ajma'een. So there's a lot to be said about that. Now let's talk about her husband. Her husband, Abdullah Ibn Abdul Asad also Makhzumi from Banu Makhzum. And he was the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam's cousin from his mother's side. So the mother of Abdullah Ibn Abdul Asad who is Abu Salama, his mother was Barra bint Abdul Muttalib. His mother was Barra bint Abdul Muttalib. So she is of course the aunt of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam making Abu Salama the first cousin of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam and he's also the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam's brother through breastfeeding. Okay, so there's a close relationship between Abu Salama and the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam even prior to Islam. And this is important to note as well. When did Abu Salama and Umm Salama become Muslim? Abu Salama is considered amongst the earliest converts to Islam. He accepted Islam alongside Al-Arqam Ibn Abi Al-Arqam and Ubaid Ibn Al-Harith before the days of Dar Al-Arqam even started. So that's one of the markers of how early people came into Islam. If they came into Islam before the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam even started to gather the companions in the house of Al-Arqam Ibn Abi Al-Arqam then that is a sign that they are from the first batch, the first handful of people to accept Islam. And so some of the narrations, they put Abu Salama as the 11th person to accept Islam. That's how early they put him, radiAllahu ta'ala anhu and of course Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anha being his wife,
they put her as the 14th or 15th person to accept Islam. So Abu Salama accepted Islam before Umm Salama. They were already married. Abu Salama accepted Islam and then shortly afterwards, his wife, Umm Salama would accept Islam. May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la be pleased with them both. Now we don't know much about Umm Salama or Abu Salama prior to Islam except for the circumstances that they were born in, except for their lineage, except for their family relationships. We don't know the story of Umm Salama accepting Islam herself or coming to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. However, what we do know is that these two, Abu Salama and Umm Salama were amongst the few and are considered to be the first to make the three hijras. Now you might be wondering where are the three hijras coming from? We talked about two hijras. There were two hijras to Abyssinia. Okay, two migrations to Abyssinia and then of course the migration to Medina. Abu Salama and Umm Salama were amongst the first to migrate and they are considered actually the first family to go to Habasha, to go to Abyssinia. And the second migration to Abyssinia is when the rumor had spread through Abyssinia that Quraysh had embraced Islam. They came back to Mecca. When they realized it was not true, they went back to Abyssinia. Okay, so they made two hijras to Abyssinia. And as they came to Mecca, one of the things that's narrated is that they were actually the guests of Abu Talib when they would come to Mecca. So that's how close they are to the family of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. And of course, a lot of that is through the mother of Abu Salama, Barra bint Abdul Muttalib, being from that family. So anyway, they're amongst those that made the hijra twice to Abyssinia and then made hijra to Medina. And so they're noted as the first to make the three hijras. They served again, you know, or they stayed in the house of Abu Talib.
And most of the narrations about Abyssinia are actually through Umm Salama. So almost everything we know about Al-Najashi. The story of Ja'far ibn Abu Talib radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu speaking to Al-Najashi. The story of the two armies that we talked about last week and Uzzubayr radiAllahu Anhu being sent out swimming in the Nile to find out what had happened. All of that is narrated through Umm Salama radiAllahu Anha. So imagine what this woman has seen, right? SubhanAllah, if she did not narrate to us the stories about Abyssinia, then last week's lecture, we probably would have had, you know, very little of that information. So how much history is preserved through her eyes through that migration to Abyssinia. Just like Ja'far radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu and Asmaa ibn Tumaysh, they had their child in Abyssinia. So Salama, who is the son of Umm Salama and Abu Salama. Salama was actually born in Abyssinia, born in this community in exile. So anyway, as they are there in Abyssinia and narrating what has happened of the glorious history that we took from Ja'far and from Najashi and all of those incredible stories that took place there in Abyssinia. What makes Umm Salama most famous or what makes her story the most famous outside of her marriage to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is what happens after they come back. Okay, after they come back. So they're in Abyssinia, they already came back when they heard that Quraysh had accepted Islam and that was a false rumor. They went back to Abyssinia, they were amongst those that were close to a Najashi. She narrates all that happened in Abyssinia and then they come to Mecca as they hear that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is about to make the hijrah to Al-Madinah. Now some people made hijrah directly from Abyssinia to Madinah. So they're coming to Mecca and they're going to prepare themselves
to accompany the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam on his journey as he makes his way to Al-Madinah. So they come back to Mecca, Abu Salama, Umm Salama and now their child Salama and they're staying in the house of Abu Talib. They prepare their luggage, they prepare everything that they're going to take with them. They set out to leave as a family and SubhanAllah as these three people are together, all three of them are about to witness something that's going to take them apart from each other. Abu Salama and Umm Salama and their child are heading out and then Banu Mahzum comes and they intercept the mount of Abu Salama, Umm Salama and the child and all that they have with them and they bring with them archers and they bring swords and Banu Mahzum, the family of Umm Salama in particular, they say that, listen, Abu Salama is a crazy man and he can do whatever he wants to do. But Umm Salama, she's one of us. She's from our family. So she and her son have to stay with us. So they basically said Abu Salama, even though again, he's related to them, he's from the same tribe, but Umm Salama's direct relatives, Umm Salama is closer in that she is the daughter of the chief, right? The former chief of this tribe and she's the first cousin of Abu Jahl and Khalid. They say, look, Abu Salama can go, we don't care about him, but the woman and the child will stay and this is of course part of the psychological torture as well of the early Muslims, right? So family separation that's going to take place here. So this whole scuffle arises, they're pulling them apart from one another and they forcibly separate Abu Salama from his wife and his son. They send Abu Salama on his way to Medina, okay? So they fight Abu Salama away from Umm Salama and the child. They take Umm Salama and the child away and Abu Salama is sent on his way to Medina
by himself. So now, SubhanAllah, this family that has been together from before Islam on two migrations to Abyssinia, Abu Salama and Umm Salama are separated and Umm Salama has her child and as she has her child, she's crying, she's weeping as a result of what had just taken place with her husband being taken away from her. To make matters worse, the family of Abu Salama hears what happened and this is not about Islam or any religious conviction. This is now about pride, about family pride and ego. So they come to the house of Umm Salama who's now with her relatives with Salama, her child and they say, listen, you wanna play that game? Umm Salama is yours then, but the child is to be ascribed to his father. So because Abu Salama is from us, the child belongs to us. And so another fight ensues and Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha was still breastfeeding her child Salama. He's still a baby, okay? And they are pulling him away. You can imagine the scene. They're trying to pull him away from Umm Salama. She is screaming, holding onto her child and SubhanAllah, as they were pulling Salama, the baby away, they pulled him away so aggressively that they dislocated his shoulders and this completely broke Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha. Can you imagine SubhanAllah, the difficulty that she is facing, right? That she is in this situation where, you know, she does not have her husband or her child now. So anyway, some time goes on and Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha is crying every single day, crying every single day. She would go out actually towards the Kaaba every day and she would weep.
And as she would weep, she would retell the stories of her husband being taken away from her and her child being taken away from her, the separation that took place. And she would cry to Allah SubhanAllah ta'ala. She would curse those that broke up her family and she would ask Allah SubhanAllah ta'ala for a way out. Now this is really something to imagine in terms of the growth of character and spirituality. Can you imagine Umm Salama doing this for an entire year? This was not just a month, this was not a few weeks. This separation took place for an entire year, okay? So she's going towards the Kaaba, she is crying out, eventually they bring her back her child. All right, the family feels bad for her, they bring her back her child. But she doesn't just want her child, she wants her husband as well. So it actually shows that as time goes on, some of the relatives of Umm Salama, they said, look, what harm is it going to do to you if you let her go? Right, at this point her husband is gone, what harm is it going to do to let her go? Why are you holding her captive? Let the poor woman join her family. So the family of Mughira, they say, listen, just go ahead and let her go. So finally, as this time goes on, she's told that she can go and she can be with her husband. Banu Asad gives her her baby back, so she now has her child back and she's told you're free to go with your husband. So she makes her way, you know, to pack her bags. She doesn't ask for anyone to escort her to Medina. By herself, she takes her baby now, who she's been separated from all of this time, she mounts her baby and she starts to make her way out towards Medina, all by herself, all by herself. All she has is her camel and her baby. This is an extremely dangerous situation,
especially in the hostility that took place at the time. Right, she could be overtaken by highway robbers, her baby could die along the way, she could get lost. This is not an easy journey for her to make, but she just wants to be with her husband and she wants to join the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam and the companions in Medina as she had initially planned. So Umm Salama radiAllahu Anha, she tells the story. She says, I took my camel, I put my son on the back, my baby on the back, and I set out for Medina and I had no one with me. I wasn't thinking about the circumstances of this travel. She just wanted her family back, right? So she said, I got all the way out to Tanim, which is about five miles outside of Mecca. Tanim, of course, is where Masjid Aisha is, where you make the, where there's a Miqat for the people of Mecca, where you go out and you can do a Haram and proclaim your intention for Umrah. So she said, I made it a few miles out of Mecca, I made it to Tanim and I had my baby. And there was a man by the name of Uthman ibn Talha, and he was on his way back from a journey. Now Uthman ibn Talha was a noble man, but he wasn't a Muslim. And he was so noble that he was the one that was in charge of the keys of the Kaaba. So you remember the story of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam prior to Islam and the people fighting over who's going to place the black stone and the different claims that are being made by tribes to the Kaaba. Uthman ibn Talha is the one who actually carries the keys to the Kaaba. So he's an honorable man, he wasn't yet Muslim at this point, he would become Muslim later on, by the way. And he sees this woman and her baby all by themselves, you know, on a camel making their way out to Medina. So he comes to Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha and he says to her, Umm Salama, where are you going? And she said, I'm going to Medina to be with my husband. And he says, don't you have anyone with you?
She says, I have no one but Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la and this child of mine. That's all I have is the baby and I have Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la. So he says, by Allah, you will not be left alone. I'm not going to let you do this alone. He said, what kind of man are you? And would I be to let you go out and do this alone? So Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu, he held my camel, Umm Salama is the one telling the story, he held my camel and he set off on this journey with me. She says, wallahi, I have never seen anyone from the Arab that was as noble as this man. He would not look at me, he would not talk to me, the way he maintained his nobility, SubhanAllah, look how honorable this man is. He's not even Muslim, he doesn't believe in the mission that's causing her to go out. But even though he is all alone and he's the one that's taking this on, he takes Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu and she says that whenever we would get to a stop, he kept his eyesight in front of him, he never looked back. He would cause the camel to kneel and then he would go far away, okay? He'd go far away. He'd give me my time to do whatever I had to do. And then after he would tie the camel, leave it there, he would go and he would rest far away from me, okay? Then he would come back and he would, again, maintain his gaze away from me and he would tell me that I could mount the camel. He would set the camel up and then he would stand far away to let me mount the camel. He'd come back and then after I was settled on the camel, he would continue to hold on to the brittle of the camel until we reached our next stop. He kept on doing this all the way until we reached to the outskirts of Medina. And by the way, notice that Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu, in this situation, Uthman does not have a camel himself. He did this by foot. He made the entire journey from Mecca to Medina by foot for a woman that was not his relative,
for a mission that he did not yet believe in, but his nobility, the good character, the honor that he had, which would eventually lead him to embrace Islam, caused him to do what he did. And Umm Salam radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu says, we're going, he continues to walk in front of me, sets the camel aside, he continues doing this for however long the journey took. And we know that it was a journey of at least a few weeks until we reached to Quba, which is the outskirts of course of Medina. And he pointed to the village of the family of Amr ibn Auf in Quba. He said, your husband should be there. May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la be with you as you continue forward. And so I took my camel and Salama, the baby to Quba. This noble man simply turned around and went back to Mecca again by foot. What an incredible human being he is. SubhanAllah, what an incredible human being he is. What a noble man he is. He walked both ways and he did not even go to Abu Salama and say, all right, you can pay me now. I brought your wife and I brought your baby by foot from Mecca. Can you pay me some money? Are you gonna give me something back? Can you at least give me a camel or a horse to go back? He did it all out of his sense of nobility and his sense of duty to Um Salama radiAllahu ta'ala and has seen this woman alone that was going to take her child. Contrast this by the way, to the people that separated the family out of arrogance, right, an ego and to torture them. And separated first a wife from her husband, then a child from both of their parents. And this man who was also not Muslim, but who had the noble qualities that would eventually lead him to Islam, walking back and forth without asking anything in return. May Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala be pleased with him. So Um Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha went forward and indeed Abu Salama was there. Now I wanna actually fast forward just quickly before we get back to the rest of this story of Um Salama and Abu Salama being reunited.
What happened to Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu? Uthman ibn Talha would accept Islam years later. And I want you to think of the scene now of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in Fath Makkah, in the conquest of Makkah. Remember the people used to fight over the sides of the Kaaba. They fought over who's gonna put the black stone. Of course, as we said, the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam solved that. When the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam came back to Makkah and Fath Makkah, the keys of the Kaaba were given to him. The expectation was that Banu Hashim, the tribe of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam would naturally hold on to the keys of the Kaaba. So Al-Abbas radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu, of course was a wealthy man, a powerful man, a noble man. Al-Abbas radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu says to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, Ya Rasulullah, let us hold on to these keys. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is standing in front of the Kaaba and the people are all surrounding the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam waiting to see what he's going to do. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says, where is Uthman ibn Talha? Where is Uthman ibn Talha? Uthman ibn Talha comes forth, the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam puts the keys in his hands. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says that the keys of the Kaaba are to stay with him and not just him, but only his descendants, only his descendants are to hold on to these keys. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, only a zalim, only an oppressor will take these keys away from you. And SubhanAllah until today, the keys of the Kaaba have passed down from Uthman ibn Talha to his next generation, to the next generation, to the next generation, to where his descendants are the only people that are allowed to hold onto the keys of the Kaaba and to open it. No one can take the keys away from the descendants of Uthman ibn Talha at the order of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. So this shows you this dimension of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam as well, where the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is acting upon the sense of nobility being tied to character, not nobility being tied to lineage or to tribe, right?
Completely undoing the hierarchy that existed at the time of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam that gave superiority to people based upon tribe. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is honoring an honorable man here. Until SubhanAllah, our times till now, this man is still honored by that action. And of course, Uthman ibn Talha did not ask the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam for any payment on that day when he brought Umm Salama forward, but look how Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala repaid him. So I know we're gonna talk about Umm Salama and how Allah repaid her. Look how Allah repaid this man who did not ask the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam for any coins or for any payment when he brought Umm Salama to Medina. Allah Azawajal paid him back with something even far greater than that. So finally now, we're back in Medina. Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha finds her husband indeed in the place of Amr ibn Uf, where Uthman ibn Talha told her that he would be in Quba. And this family will now stay together in Al-Medina in the companionship of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam and they will go on to have more children. Some narrations which seem to be more correct suggest three more children. Some suggest even five more children, giving them either four children or six children in total, because as we said, Salama was born in Abyssinia. So then they have Durra, who is a daughter, Umar and Zaynab, okay? So Salama, Durra, Umar and Zaynab. And some mentioned two other children, Muhammad and Umm Kulthum, but it seems more correct to say that they had four in total that were born to them. Three immediately, one after the other in Medina, literally every year, there was a child that was born to Abu Salama and Umm Salama may Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la be pleased with them, and the whole family. Abu Salama is a close companion of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. He accompanies the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in Badr.
So he is a person who made the three hijras and then he fought in Badr. So he has the noble title of being amongst the people of Badr, the veterans of Badr, who of course hold a lofty position in Islam. He then accompanies the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in Uhud, and he fights alongside the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam bravely in Uhud. And he is wounded in Uhud, and the wounds in Uhud would eventually cause him to pass away. Okay, so it would be months later, but the wounds that he takes in Uhud would eventually be the wounds that would reopen or the sickness or the infection that comes as a result of those wounds, would be the wounds that Abu Salama would pass away from. But until that time, for three years, you have Abu Salama, Umm Salama, Umm Salama gets pregnant every year, a new child is brought into Medina, Abu Salama, a brother of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, one of the most beloved companions to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. And he comes home from the companionship of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam one day, and he's full of joy. And Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha gives us this narration. She says, Abu Salama came home so happy, and he said to Umm Salama, I heard the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam say something today, Ahabbu ilayya min katha wa katha It was more beloved to me than this and that. It's the most beloved thing to me to hear. What an amazing thing I heard from the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam today. Umm Salama said, what is it? He says, I heard the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam say that whoever says at the moment of calamity, Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon Allahumma jirni fee musibati wa khlufli khayran minha The very famous du'a, Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon Allahumma jirni fee musibati wa khlufli khayran minha That of course to Allah we belong and to Allah we return. Oh Allah, compensate me for my tragedy
and give me better than that which was taken away from me. Oh Allah, compensate me for my tragedy and give me better than that which was taken away from me. Abu Salama said, I heard the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam say, whoever says this at the moment of calamity will be given something better by Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la. Abu Salama has no idea at the time that he is giving Umm Salama the du'a that she will make when he dies. SubhanAllah, he's narrating it from the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam and he is the one in complete joy and happiness because this is an amazing du'a that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is teaching the companions here. Sometime after that, as we said, Abu Salama was wounded in Uhud. After Uhud, he struggled with those wounds. He tried to fight through them. His sickness was on and off. He even in fact went on another expedition according to some narrations and his wounds were reopened and eventually he would succumb to those wounds months after Uhud, up to six months after the battle of Uhud. And Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anha narrates the incident that takes place there. She says Rasulullah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam came to our home and some of the relatives of Abu Salama were surrounding him in his bed. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam stood on top of Abu Salama and of course this is a dear companion to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. And the relatives are surrounding the bed of Abu Salama and Abu Salama is looking up and as you see with some people when they pass away, suddenly his sight became fixed. Okay, so he was looking up, he was breathing hard radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu, he was trying to overcome his wounds, he was not able to, and his sight became fixed and he stopped breathing. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam,
he took his two noble fingers Alaihi Salatu Wasallam and he closed the eyes of his beloved companion Abu Salama and he said SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam that when the body passes away, when the person passes away, the soul follows the sight. Okay, if you remember in the angels series, we actually talked about this narration, the soul follows the person's sight. So the ruh had come out of the body of Abu Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu and when the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam closed his eyes and he said that, the family of Abu Salama started to weep heavily and the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, la tad'u ala anfusikum illa bikhayr Don't supplicate to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la anything except that which is good for you because the angels say Ameen to whatever you say. The angels are going to say Ameen to whatever you say. So make sure the dua that you're going to make right now at the time of death of your loved one, who is a Shaheed, who is a person who made three hijras, who is the 11th person to accept Islam, who is the brother of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam one of the greatest companions, a Badri and a Shaheed of Uhud. Don't say anything right now except for good because the angels are going to say Ameen. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam then made the dua for Abu Salama Allahumma khfir li Abi Salama warfa' darajatahu fil mahdeen washshah lahu fee qabrihi wanawwur lahu fee wakhlufhu fee aqibihi He said SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam Oh Allah forgive Abu Salama, raise his status amongst your rightly guided servants, make his grave spacious, fill it with light and be his successor in taking care of those who he has left behind and make them amongst the pious. This Hadith is in Sahih Muslim, the death of Abu Salama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam then took the body of Abu Salama,
they washed the body of Abu Salama and the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam led the janazah of Abu Salama with nine takbirat and I know that sounds strange to a lot of people but it is authentically narrated that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam led the janazah of Abu Salama with nine takbirat and this is something that is also narrated for some of the other shuhada, something special that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam did for some of the shuhada. What did the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam say between nine takbirat instead of the four that we say? Allah knows best, I don't think it's authentically narrated anywhere what the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said between the different takbirat, the nine takbirat. However, this was a special distinction and an honor that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam gives for Abu Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anhum as he leads his janazah. So now once again, Umm Salama is separated from her husband but this time it's death, right? And she has Salama who was a young child when she came to Medina and then she has three children, right? Presumably we're talking about, you know, a three-year-old, a two-year-old, a one-year-old when you're looking at the timeline, okay? So she literally has this group of young children, of small children with her at that point. Salama has grown a bit older, he's the only one that's a bit older than the rest of the children. And as soon as she heard that Abu Salama had passed away, while she's witnessing this moment of the death of Abu Salama, she said, I remembered what he told me, what he narrated from the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam So SubhanAllah, the man who is dead in front of them narrated from the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam to her, the dua to be said at the time of al-musiba, at the time of tragedy. So at that time she said, I remembered the dua that Abu Salama taught me at that moment. So I said, inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'oon Allahumma jurni fee musibati wa khlus fee khayra minh
Oh Allah, compensate me for my tragedy and grant me better than that which was taken away from me. And she said that after I made that dua though, I thought to myself, who better than Abu Salama? There is no one better than Abu Salama, right? I mean, this is a noble man, a noble companion, a great human being, a person who was a great Muslim, a person of great character, a person who loved his wife, who loved his family. She's like, who is better than Abu Salama? So even though she made the dua as she was instructed to, she thought to herself, who is better than Abu Salama? She says, thumma inni qultuha, I said it. She said, faakhlafa Allahu li rasoolallahi salallahu alihi wasalam and Allah indeed gave me better. He gave me the messenger of Allah salallahu alihi wasalam. Now this was not an immediate response to the dua and not something that happened immediately after the death of Abu Salama. Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anha has four children. She is a woman that has been through a lot, right? I mean, the pain of being by herself and separated from her husband and her child in Mecca, amongst people that rejected Allah and his messenger salallahu alaihi wasalam and held her captive, that pain is still there. She's been through a lot, right? And she has four children. And who comes to her? Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala anhu comes to her and proposes to her. But guess what? She turns it down. Umar ibn al-Khattab radiAllahu ta'ala anhu comes to her and proposes to her. She turns down his proposal too. To her, no one, no one from the companions is equal to Abu Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anhu, right? She loves him too much and she's seen so much of him. But then the proposal comes to her, of course, from the one man who was indisputably better than Abu Salama. You know, she could argue that no one else was better than Abu Salama, but she can't say that the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam was not better than Abu Salama.
So she says, Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasalam sent to me, Hatib ibn Abi Balt'a to propose on his behalf. So I said to him, I said, listen, now obviously she was blown away by the proposal of the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam, but she said to the Prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam in response, she said that, I have three issues though. She said, number one, I'm an extremely jealous person. Even though polygamy was the norm at the time, she's not used to that. She's never been in a polygamous situation. She is, you know, she doesn't know how to deal with the situation. She says, look, I'm a very jealous person. So that's my first issue. She said, the second thing is I'm not that young. I'm an old woman. Now, obviously she's not very elderly, right? Because she's still at the age where she was able to bear children, you know, so she's not that old, but she says that, you know, I'm not a young woman. I'm an old woman. And she said, the third thing is that I have children. to care for. So I have three issues. I'm jealous, extremely jealous. I am elderly and I have children that I have to take care of. I have four children that come with me as well. SubhanAllah, the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam responds and he says, as for her ghira, she says, ad'u Allaha an yadhaba bil ghira. I ask Allah, I'll make dua for Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la to do away with your ghira, or to help you through that jealousy. And you should just pray to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la to help you through the jealousy that will come. Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says, as for your age, you and I have the same condition. We're both, we both have age as an issue, right? So it's not like I'm young also, right? So we're both advanced in our age in that sense. And then the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says, and as for your family, they are my family. This is beautiful. As for your family, they will be my family. Your family will not be treated any differently
as they come into the household of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. And so indeed Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la answered her dua and granted her better than Abu Salama who was very hard to top, right? But he can only be topped by the messenger of Allah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam himself. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam marries her. And I'm not gonna talk too much right now about what happens next, but I'm gonna talk about what happens next. I'm just gonna give one incident that speaks to the last part of what the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said to her about her family being like the family of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam or being indeed the family of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. Zainab, the daughter of Umm Salama is going to play a very special role in the life of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. Zainab is going to become a close daughter to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam and someone whose legacy is an extension of the legacy of Umm Salama radiAllahu anha. And we'll talk a bit about that next week bi-idhnillahi ta'ala. But this is not just lip service that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam was paying to Umm Salama. There's an incident that took place where the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam saw Al-Hasan, Al-Hussein and Fatima may Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la be pleased with them all, his family. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam embraced all of them as we said, when we talked about Fatima radiAllahu anha and Al-Hasan, Al-Hussein, how beloved they were to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. He used to put them under his cloak, alayhi Salatu Wasallam. He used to embrace his children and his grandchildren, SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. He loved them. And as he embraced them, he said, he recited the ayah rahmatullahi wabarakatuhu alaykum ahlal bayt innahu hamidun majeed. Ayah from Surah Hud. May the mercy of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la and the blessings of Allah be upon you, O people of the household. Okay, now this is referring to in Surah Hud of course, Ibrahim Alayhi Salam, but the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is using the same thing to refer to his household. Ali Muhammad, like Ali Ibrahim in this sense. So he's embracing Fatima Al-Hassan Wal-Hussein,
and he says these words. When he says that, Umm Salama is witnessing that, Umm Salama started to cry. The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says to her, Ya Umm Salama, why are you crying? And she said to the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, you left me and Zainab out. You left me and my daughter out. So the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam then includes them. And he says, Anti wabnatuki min ahlul bayt. You and your daughter are from ahlul bayt. You and your daughter are from my family. You are from the people of the household as well. So you see the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam making it a point to include them and to treat them like his own, SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, the children of Umm Salama. And we will see that with Zainab radiAllahu anha, which we'll talk about InshaAllah ta'ala a bit next week. Two quick notes InshaAllah ta'ala as we end this lecture, and then we'll talk about the legacy of Umm Salama in knowledge and her companionship with the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. One of them is that some of the scholars point to the marriage of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam to Umm Salama radiAllahu anha as being the first thing that really opened the heart of Khalid ibn al-Walid to Islam radiAllahu anhu. Because remember Khalid was the cousin of Umm Salama and very close to that family. That is his family. So when he heard that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam married her, this noble woman from Banu Mahzum, his cousin, then that was something that softened his heart towards the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam. And lastly, if you remember the story of Ja'far, Ali and Zaid, all wanting to take care of Umama, the daughter of Hamza, may Allah be pleased with them all. If you remember when Hamza radiAllahu anhu was martyred, and you had the argument, if you will, that took place between Zaid, Ali and Ja'far about who would take care of the daughter of Hamza, Umama radiAllahu ta'ala anha, the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam would marry Umama bint Hamza, who of course was taken by Ja'far, would marry her to Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anhu, the daughter, the son of Abu Salama and Umm Salama.
So Salama, who was born in Abyssinia, okay? Just think about the way that it all worked out then. Salama, who was born in Abyssinia, would then marry Umama, the daughter of Hamza, who was being raised in the house of Ja'far from Abyssinia. Okay? And this was a marriage that would take place in the lifetime of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam, he himself arranging it, alayhi salatu wassalam, between Salama and Umama. May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la be pleased with them all, all of the companions, and have mercy upon them and gather us with them. Allahumma ameen. May Allah Azawajal give us always better than that which is taken away from us in this world, and give us the companionship of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam in Jannatul Firdaus, as we did not have the opportunity to accompany him in this world. Allahumma ameen, wa salallahu wasallam wa baraka al nabiyyina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi ajma'in. As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuHu.
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