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Khadijah (ra): His First Love, Our First Mother
In episode 4 of the Firsts, dive into the many “firsts” accomplished by the best woman of her time, Kadijah bint Khuwaylid (ra), the Prophet Muhammad’s ﷺ first love and wife. Sh. Omar Suleiman describes the relationship and love between Khadijah (ra) and the Prophet ﷺ, her support, and her station as the first woman to believe in him.
Transcript
This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings. Alhamdulillah wa salatu was salamu ala rasulullah wa al aalihi wa sahbihi wa man wala. So tonight we talk about Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha and Khadijah is the first and the first and the first and the first and the first and the first. In fact if you were to break down the list of firsts, Khadijah would occupy the first nine which I'll get to inshallah ta'ala, at least about the first nine if you actually get to her virtues. As I said you could start off with her and we could have started off the series but I wanted to kind of lay the groundwork with some of those that started to have these inclinations towards belief before Khadijah actually receives the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, receives the prophet and believes in him and gives him that support that he needed so desperately in those times. But understanding the place of Zayd ibn Amr and then understanding Waraqa, the cousin of Khadijah and the role that he played and now we get to this very special woman. Now my disclaimer for this is that I've done a five hour class on Khadijah so it's very hard to condense into 40 minutes but I'm going to try and I'm going to try to focus particularly on where she distinguishes herself as the first and so I'm going to omit many of the biographical details about her in light of that and focus on some of the things that a lot of people might not actually know about her. So many people miss certain things about her or the significant elements of her history that have to do with it. Obviously she is who she is. The prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said, khayru nisa'iha Maryam ibnatu Imran wa khayru nisa'iha Khadijah. But the best woman of her times was Maryam and the best woman of her times was Khadijah. The prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam included her amongst those who perfected their faith.
When you say perfection of faith, you have to think about all that that entails and how hard that is to achieve for someone who is not a prophet of God. To be perfect, have kamal, have complete perfection in her iman and her akhlaq, faith and her character radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha and you see this as you start to go through her story. So let's start off with just briefly who she is. She is Khadijah bint Khuwayrid ibn Asad ibn Abdul Uzza ibn Qusay ibn Kilaab. From Qusay ibn Kilaab all the way up, she has the exact same lineage as the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. So she has the same lineage as the prophet peace be upon him and then it breaks off after Qusay to Abdul Uzza and then you go into the tree of Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. As we mentioned last week, let's see if anyone remembers actually. Her father, was he the oldest son or the youngest son? The youngest. How do we know that? Why did that come up last week? Because her uncle, her uncle who? We said it last week for a reason. Anybody remember? See how attentive people are. Very good. So we said Naufal is the brother of Khuwayrid. Khuwayrid is the youngest son of Asad. Naufal is the oldest. So Waraka is the oldest son of Naufal, Khadijah is the youngest of Khuwayrid which explains the gap in age between Waraka and Khadijah. So Waraka really played much more of a senior role in her life. Waraka is her cousin but almost like her uncle because of the difference in age. We're talking at least at this point 25-30 years between Waraka and Khadijah radiyaAllahu
ta'ala anha. So Khuwayrid was the chief of Banu Asad. He was one of those who defended the Kaaba in the story of Surat Al-Fid, one of those who was willing to defend the Kaaba along with Abdul Muttalib, the grandfather of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. And he also went with Abdul Muttalib, the grandfather of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, to Yemen to congratulate Saif ibn Diyazan who became the ruler of Yemen after the death of Abraha and of course Abraha was the one who sought to destroy the Kaaba from Yemen. So the father of Khadijah, Khuwayrid, is close to Abdul Muttalib, the grandfather of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. And of course Abdul Muttalib was the one who took care of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam when he was first born because the Prophet's father had already passed away. So Abdul Muttalib, the grandfather, and Khuwayrid have a history of being two chiefs living together, yet both of them dying relatively early. Khuwayrid died, as we said last week, in the battle of Al-Fijar. Who knows the name of the mother of Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha? I'll give you a clue, it's the name of one of her daughters, Fatima. So there are many Fatimas when you actually start to get through it. So the mother of Khadijah is Fatima bin Zayda. So Fatima, the daughter of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and Khadijah al-Zahra is named after Fatima bin Zayda. Fatima was also the paternal grandmother of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, the mother of Abdullah. Her siblings, we mentioned a very famous sibling, Awam, being the father of al-Zubayr radiyaAllahu anha. Al-Zubayr bin Awam of course is one of the ten promised paradise, so that would make
Zubayr her cousin or nephew, we said her siblings. So Zubayr is the nephew of Khadijah. Zubayr has two daughters by the way, named Khadijah al-Kubra and Khadijah al-Sughra. Would name two of his daughters, Khadijah the big and Khadijah the small. Khadijah al-Kubra and Khadijah al-Sughra. Another famous sibling is Hizam, the father of Hakim Nuh Hizam, who of course was the one who plays a big role in the seerah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. Later on he narrates many of the narrations of Meccan seerah and about Khadijah radiyaAllahu alayhi wasalam in particular. There is Hala bint Khuwailid, the sister of Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. Her son Al-As, the son of Hala bint Khuwailid would marry Zaynab, the daughter of Khadijah and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. So that's one of the sisters of Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha as well. And the rest of that obviously is just meant to give you somewhat of a picture of what's happening in Mecca as it comes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha was born 15 years before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. So she was 15 years older than the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. That would make her year of birth, what year? You can't just say 15 years before the Prophet. We don't have BP before Prophet's birth. Five what? 595? 585? 555. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was born in the year 570. You got your numbers mixed up. You got Prophethood, that's right. So you're on to something. Just not this thing. Alright. So she was born in the year 555, 15 years before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam.
Her name is a really interesting name. It's an extremely unique name. If you look through the early books where they track the names, the names that people would use in the Arab world at the time were pretty common. You see a lot of aunts, moms, daughters kind of recycling the names over and over and over again. Khadija is not one of those names. Just like Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasalam is unique only to him, Khadija is not a name that you find. Khadija means premature. Khadija actually means linguistically premature. And so the indication is that she was born well before the due date. And some of the scholars mention maybe the wisdom of that. She was premature. She was ahead of her time. Truly subhanallah, as a woman ahead of her time. But as a girl, when she was born, she was born premature. Hence her family called her Khadija. And so you don't find any Khadijas before Khadija. Which is very rare. You find many Fatimas. You don't find many or any Khadijas in fact before Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. So she was born a very premature birth, given the name Khadija. She was extremely beautiful, well educated, literate, well dressed, sharp, perfect in her behavior, perfect in her character, the most elegant woman of Mecca. She grew up to become the most elegant woman of Mecca. She never worshipped idols. Just like the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and Abu Bakr, she was one of those who chose not to worship idols. Part of that is probably the influence of Waraqa bin Naufal who we spoke about last week radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu. That there was this idea and it was okay for some to not worship the idols, but of course what was prohibited or what would be confronted would be the character or a person like Zayd ibn Amr who would actually confront idol worship before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam receives the revelation.
She has another nickname. Even before Islam, does anyone know what it is? Tahira. So her nickname was Tahira. So Khadija was also called Tahira, pure, before Islam. And that was obviously in reference to her character, pure, even before Islam. Khadija radiyaAllahu anha, as Urwa narrates, Khadija radiyaAllahu anha was known to have never backbited, lied, hurt anyone, or upset anyone. So she was just one of those women that would not mess with anybody, one of those people that just goes through, walks through, does not use her position of authority or strength to hurt anybody. So she had a very gentle, subtle presence which is rare for someone of that level, right? Prominence, beauty, wealth, everything that would make a person arrogant only contributed to her humility radiyaAllahu anha even before Islam. She married a man by the name of Abu Hala ibn Zurarah Atamimi, that's her first husband. She had two sons from him, Hala and Hind. By the way, there are a lot of Hinds in the seerah. Men and women named Hind. I'll talk about why another time. But Hind ibn Abi Hala, who is the son of Khadija, the oldest son of Khadija, has one of the most beautiful descriptions of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. So he lived to the time of Islam and he described the Prophet peace be upon him, his physical characteristics, his appearance, his character, and one of the most beautiful descriptions. So if you were to look up Hind ibn Abi Hala's description of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, it is an incredible description, one of the most prominent descriptions in the books of Shamail. He lived all the way until 36 after Hijrah. So he lived actually well after the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam even, not just Khadija
radiAllahu ta'ala anha, narrated from Ibn Abbas, Al-Hasan, Al-Husayn, and his son also Hind. So her first husband, Abu Hala, passed away. She married Atiq ibn A'idh Al-Makhzumi. She had a daughter from him named Hind also, so a son from the first one named Hind. Second husband, she had a daughter named Hind. Also a son named Abdul Uzza, obviously a reference to idolatry, but this one, that doesn't come in any sound narration per se, but some of the books mention a son by the name of Abdul Uzza, and that would not be because of her idol worshipper proving of idolatry, but it would be because that was the name of her grandfather. So maybe a son, Abdul Uzza from him as well. Now this one, this husband passed away also, and he died when she was only 25, so she was already widowed twice at the age of 25 years old, meaning that she would go 15 years, 15 years unmarried after being married to two husbands before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. Banu Makhzum is considered one of the richest tribes. Anyone know any famous members from Banu Makhzum? Abu Jahl, Abu Jahl is from Banu Makhzum. Khalid Ibn Al-Walid, and of course Al-Walid are from Banu Makhzum. So these are very powerful, rich people in society. So when Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha is 25 years old, she's already widowed, or she's already become a widow twice, Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha had inherited from both of her parents, she'd inherited from both of her husbands who were both very wealthy, and she was an extremely intelligent, smart businesswoman. So she became not just the richest woman amongst Quraysh, but her caravan, the caravan of Khadijah
radiyaAllahu anha, equaled all of the other caravans of Quraysh. So if you took just her caravan by itself, and you put all of Quraysh's caravans together, hers would outdo all of them. She used to send on the trade routes to Syria and to Yemen sometimes, over 800 camels carrying her goods. So this is a very wealthy woman, a very exquisite, rich woman. Her nickname becomes Amirat Quraish, the princess of Quraysh, Sayyidat Nisa'il Quraysh, the leader of the women of Quraysh, Khadijah Al-Kubra, Khadijah the Great. There are so many different nicknames that she acquires along the way, aside from Tahira, which was one that was more prominent and interchangeable with her name Khadijah growing up. She also, there was a green silk pavilion over her roof. So it's really interesting, if you walked into Mecca, there was a green silk pavilion over her roof. And that wasn't a sign of her wealth, that was actually a sign for the poor that were in need. They knew to go to her house. So she wanted to be very open and clear that she would give her money freely to the orphans, to the poor, to the widows, to the sick. She used to help the poor get married, she used to provide the mahr herself. So she was an extremely generous woman as well. At one point there's a narration that she had over 400 servants. So this is a woman that is giving to much of society that occupies a great place of prominence in her society. Obviously, because of her humility and her goodness, she also got taken advantage of quite a bit in business, right? So she would employ traders, have people take her caravans to Yemen, to Syria, which were the famous trade routes for the people of Mecca. And often they'd come up short, she knew she was being cheated.
And she was looking for an honest merchant that she could entrust with her wealth on those trade routes. So she herself actually never made the trip to a sham or to Yemen, but she was looking for someone that she could give that wealth to. How does the Prophet Salaam enter into this picture? Okay, so how does he even come up in the conversation? The Prophet Salaam's actual career coming up was not a merchant. What was he? He was a shepherd, right? And he said that all of the prophets were shepherds. It's one of the ways that Allah taught the Prophet's character, is that all of the prophets of Allah at some point were shepherds. And so the Prophet Salaam was a shepherd, and he was a shepherd primarily for Abu Talib and taking care of Abu Talib's business as well. Now at the age of 18, the Prophet Salaam also started to play the role of being a broker. So in a contract of mudaraba, where you have a silent partner and an active partner. So he would start to be a person that would engage in some of those trades on behalf of a seller. But he himself, Salaam did not go as an adult at this point, after the age of 18 when he started doing this, he didn't actually go to Syria or Yemen himself to do that. If you remember from the story of Waraka, Abu Talib took him as a child, and the monk in Syria said, don't bring him around here. And he did not bring him back over there. So when the Prophet Salaam grew up, this is only the second time that he's going to go out to Ash-Sham. Now how does Khadija come to know about the Prophet Salaam? She was sick of being burned in business. She was looking for someone who was honest, who was trustworthy. And she was complaining to her sister Hala about this.
And Hala referred the Prophet Salaam to her, saying that he's a shepherd for some of my sheep. So the Prophet Salaam was a shepherd for Hala, the sister of Khadija. And said, you know, he's an extremely trustworthy person. He has high character. Why don't you approach him? So she said, who should I approach? She said, approach his father, Abu Talib. Abu Talib, of course, is the uncle of the Prophet Salaam, but plays the role of his father. When she goes to Abu Talib, Abu Talib actually initially was hesitant. He didn't want to do it. He did not want to let the Prophet Salaam go out to do this trade to Ash-Sham, to Syria. But after some convincing, she makes the offer multiple times. Abu Talib accepts the proposition. The Prophet Salaam accepts to take her caravan to Ash-Sham for that year. And the person that would be paired off with him, as we said last week, what was his name? Maysara, who would follow the Prophet Salaam on behalf of Khadija, saw his good character, said that the cloud never left him, when he would take naps, the trees would extend their branches over him. When he would be in the marketplace and they'd say, swear by Al-Lat and Al-Uzza, he would say, I've never sworn by them before. Maysara, who saw the good character of the Prophet Salaam, the honesty of the Prophet Salaam. In any case, the Prophet Salaam, he doubled the caravan of Khadija on that trip. So he did an extremely good job. He was noble and Maysara told Khadija about his good character and about the things that he had seen. And of course, the fact that he's a monotheist also appeals to Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha, who was a monotheist as well. So Maysara comes back. The Prophet Salaam took Khadija's caravan out, doubled it, was completely honest, maintained
a great deal of nobility. And Maysara is bragging about the Prophet Salaam. Now Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha had trust issues with the merchants, or merchants taking her caravan. She definitely has trust issues getting married now because she doesn't want to get married to someone who's only going to marry her. She doesn't want her to cheat her with all the wealth that she has. So she doesn't trust people for marriage. So she's been unmarried now for over a decade. The Prophet Salaam is also unmarried. And there's a woman that puts the bug in Khadija's ear. Does anyone know her name? Not Hala now. Nafisa. So Nafisa was a friend of Khadija. She goes to Khadija and asks her how's everything. And Khadija starts talking about the Prophet Salaam, this young man, Muhammad, who took her caravan and was so honest and how noble he was. She starts to say all of those things. So Nafisa sees the spark in her eye. And Nafisa says, well why don't you marry him? Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha said, I wasn't interested in marriage and I've been turning people down this whole time. So it's not really something I thought of. The Prophet Salaam was also turning down all proposals. Why was the Prophet not getting married? What was the main reason why he was not getting married? Anyone know? He had a poor family. He wanted to take care of his family. So he felt indebted to Abu Talib. Again, this is a situation where you have the family living together, different kids, the kids of Abu Talib being transferred here, living with the Prophet Salaam. Abu Talib himself was a very poor man, a respected man, but a very poor man. So the Prophet Salaam was holding off getting married. She was holding off getting married. And Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha, I mean obviously the Prophet Salaam from an economic perspective,
his class compared to her class, this is a very different class. So Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha, in a conversation with Nafisa, asks Nafisa to inquire from the Prophet Salaam if he's even interested. So Nafisa is the one playing the role here. She heard from Khadija, she got the, okay she's interested. She goes to the Prophet Salaam, she says to the Prophet Salaam, why don't you get married? He says, you know, I have to care for my family, I have to take care of them, but who would you suggest anyway? And Nafisa says, what about a woman with nobility, wealth, beauty, character? She's got everything. The Prophet Salaam said, who? So she said, Khadija. The Prophet Salaam said, why do you think she would marry me? What would make Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha, Amirat Nisa'il Quraysh, the princess of Quraysh, Sayyidat Nisa'il Quraysh, marry me? So Nafisa says, let me ask her. So Nafisa goes back to Khadija, Khadija sends the proposal, Abu Talib comes back with the Prophet Salaam, and who conducts the marriage? Come on, Waraka, good, just want to make sure you all were paying attention last week. So think about this, Tahira, the pure one, marries Al-Amin, the truthful one. SubhanAllah, their nicknames, Tahira and Al-Amin. And we mentioned last week the dream that Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala Anha had of the sun descending into her home. And Waraka telling Khadija that this would be, that you would marry a noble man or a prophet. Now, I want to actually give you some perspective here because it's important, about how history changes now. Who had Khadija received proposals from before the Prophet Salaam?
Abu Jahl, Abu Sufyan, Uqba bin Abi Mu'id. Three people who would oppose, of course the only one that lived to accept Islam would be Abu Sufyan. But three of the fiercest enemies of the Prophet Salaam when he receives prophethood. Three powerful, arrogant men, right? Khadija did not want any part of them. Despite the strength, despite the nobility, the wealth, all the power that they had in society. She turned down proposals from all three of them, which is unheard of. If you live in Meccan society, you don't turn down a proposal from Abu Jahl. Who at that time was not called the father of ignorance, he was Amr ibn Hisham. Abu al-Hakam, the father of wisdom, powerful, strong, noble. Noble in many ways, a leader, right? Turns down all of them. Imagine the trajectory of history if Khadija marries one of them instead. SubhanAllah, which was the expected route for Khadija. So Khadija did not do that. Why did she marry the Prophet Salaam? For what reason? Was it because of how handsome he was? He was very handsome. Was it because of his lineage? Lineage was a big thing to the Arabs. It was because of character. And she actually told the Prophet Salaam, إني قد رغبت فيك لحسن خلقك وصدق حديثك She said, look, the reason why I fell for you, I wanted you, I desired you, is because of your noble character and your truthful tongue. The two things I noticed about you, your good character, your truthful tongue. That's what attracted me to you, Ya Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. And this is acting upon revelation before it comes. The Prophet Salaam said, إذا أتاك من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوا
If someone comes to you with religion and character, you marry that person. You marry that person. You look for those things. Obviously religion is ambiguous at this point. Character is not ambiguous. And what drew Khadija to the Prophet Salaam was his character. This is what the scholars say, ألم يجدك يتيما فآوى ووجدك ضالا فهدى ووجدك عائلا فأغنى That Allah found you poor and He enriched you, He put you in a place of success. That Khadija radiAllahu ta'ala Anha, marrying the Prophet Salaam was special. 40 years old, she was 40, he was 25. And the Prophet Salaam, through his marriage to Khadija, his place in society changed significantly. For one, it freed him up significantly to play a more important role in society. So it freed him up. They're a wealthy couple at this point. The second thing, it gave the Prophet Salaam access to the elites that he did not have before. And that would play an important role in his da'wah. That would play an important role in his call. Now the Prophet peace be upon him already attained a position due to his nobility and his character. People already knew him as a good man and loved him and respected him. But now being married to Khadija gives him a different status in society altogether. So he moves into the house of Khadija radiAllahu ta'ala Anha. In five years of marriage, they had six children. Who can name all the children by the way? Alright, it's too late for you guys. So Zainab, Ruqayya, Umm Kulthum, Fatima, Al Qasim, and Abdullah. Four daughters, Zainab, Ruqayya, Umm Kulthum, Fatima, Qasim, and Abdullah. According to a narration from Urwah, Khadija named the girls, the Prophet Salaam named the boys.
So you have six children that come from this. And not just six children that come into this household, you also have other people that live in this house. Who else lives in this home? What's that? So some of Khadija's previous children also live with the Prophet Salaam and Khadija. I just want you to get an idea for how many kids are in this home. Okay, who else? Someone just said it, I heard someone say it. Zaid Ibn Haritha. So Zaid Ibn Haritha was actually, we'll talk about Zaid in detail at some point, but Zaid was captured, enslaved, and then bought by Hakim Nuhizam, gifted to Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. The Prophet Salaam saw Zaid, the Prophet Salaam immediately loved this young man. Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha gifted Zaid to the Prophet Salaam, who freed Zaid and adopted him as a son. So Zaid became Zaid Ibn Muhammad. Did I lose you all? Hakim Nuhizam, the nephew of Khadija, gifted Zaid to Khadija. Khadija gifted Zaid to the Prophet Salaam, the Prophet Salaam freed him and took him as a son instead. So he was the adopted son, known as Hibbu Rasulallah Salaam, the beloved one of the Messenger of Allah Salaam. Who else is in this household? What's that? Umm Ayman? Not exactly. Not exactly. Not living in the household. Yeah. Not Zubair. Zubair was actually being cared for by Naufal. Not Anas. Anas is Medina. Later, later. Ali. Why did you all forget Ali? What's going on here? Ali radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu. Right? Ali radiyaAllahu anhu. So when the Prophet Salaam moved to the house of Khadija, obviously his economic status changes and his heart is still with Abu Talib.
That's why he didn't want to get married in the first place. He didn't want to leave Abu Talib in a bad situation. So Abu Talib had a hard time caring for his own children. So Hamza radiyaAllahu anhu took Ja'far Ibn Abi Talib. The Prophet Salaam took Ali Ibn Abi Talib. So Ja'far was raised in the home of Hamza and Ali was raised in the home of the Prophet Salaam. So this is a pretty full house. Right? Between the Prophet Salaam and Khadija and all of these children. And the way that this relationship goes for the next 15 years before Islam comes into the picture is this model relationship. They absolutely loved each other. They only had one argument one time. And the argument was that Khadija radiyaAllahu anhu asked the Prophet Salaam to attend a gathering of some of the relatives. And the Prophet Salaam said, Ay Khadija wallahi laa a'abudu allat abada wa laa a'abudu al-uzza abada. And Khadija said, khalil lat khalil uzza. So he said to Khadija, I will never worship uzza. I will never worship allat, the idols. And Khadija was saying, forget about lat, forget about uzza. Meaning that Khadija wanted the Prophet Salaam to go to one of those gatherings just to be with the relatives. And the Prophet Salaam did not want to attend any of the gatherings where the idols would be worshipped. So that's the only time that they actually had an argument was over that. One of the narrations that took place at this time is Khadija loved, she loved to make the Prophet Salaam happy. And so when she met Halima Sa'diyah. Halima was the woman who breastfed the Prophet Salaam, who cared for the Prophet Salaam as a child. When Khadija met Halima Sa'diyah and she saw the way the Prophet Salaam loved Halima Sa'diyah like a mother. Khadija radiyaAllahu anha gifted her with 40 sheep and a camel.
And that was the habit of Khadija. It gives you some context. If she met someone who helped the Prophet Salaam as a child or when he was young or when he was destitute. Khadija would spend on them. She would gift them for what they did for the Prophet Salaam. So it gives you some context to the Prophet Salaam repaying that favor later on after the death of Khadija. To spend on Khadija's friends. Khadija spent on the friends of the Prophet Salaam. Anyone that took care of the Prophet Salaam or that loved the Prophet Salaam or the Prophet Salaam loved. If Khadija saw it, Khadija radiyaAllahu anha gave and gave and gave and gave. And of course this only increased the love of the Prophet Salaam for Khadija radiyaAllahu anha. Of course one of the significant incidents before revelation here is when the tribes fought over the placement of the stone in the Ka'bah. Al-Hajar al-Aswad, the black stone in the Ka'bah. And the tribes made an agreement that they would resolve the dispute by whoever walks through the doors next will place the stone together. The Prophet Salaam walks through. They said, Al-Amin radina, Al-Amin radina. It's the trustworthy one, the truthful one. We are pleased. It's the truthful one. We are pleased. And the Prophet Salaam came up with a strategy. He said that all of the tribes will put the black stone in the cloth. And all of the tribes will grab a part of that cloth. That way they all place the stone together. And so it solves the dispute of giving favoritism to one tribe over the other. Now of course that's a position that the Prophet Salaam in part occupies now because of who his wife is. Because of who his wife is radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. Now all of that I just summarized as much as I could and paraphrased. And I hope I didn't lose anyone. To give you this context. To revelation. Okay. To revelation.
The Prophet Salaam had the most beautiful wife, the most elegant wife, the most wealthy, noble, comforting, caring, loved his children. Has an incredible space in society. There is nothing more that a person could want at this point. Meaning from a dunyawi perspective, from a material perspective. The best moments, the best time of the Prophet's life was 38, 39 years old. This lead up to revelation. Where when he walks through the streets, he is noble, everyone recognizes him. He's a peacemaker. When he speaks, everyone listens. They honor him. His family life is good. His societal life is good. He has everything that he could possibly want. Right? And suddenly the Prophet Salaam starts to see dreams. This is an important understanding of revelation. Right? The Prophet Salaam's revelation starts with true dreams. Suddenly the Messenger of Allah sees something, he wakes up. Sometimes he would tell his family what he saw in the dream. And it would happen exactly as he saw it. So for six months, half a year, the Messenger of Allah Salaam kept seeing true dreams. After he sees true dreams, what happens next? Aisha radiallahu anha says, Allah put the love of seclusion in the heart of the Messenger Salaam. Suddenly he loved to pray alone, to seclude himself. To worship in an Abrahamic way. The worship of waraqa was called tahannuf. Tahannuf, to worship in a Hanifi way. To worship in a monotheistic way. So the Prophet Salaam suddenly loved to have long periods of silence and seclusion. And worship that one God actively. And seeking something greater.
But he was called very specifically, alayhi salatu was salam, to Ghar-e-Hira. To that cave in Hira. It's not like he was going next door, or the Prophet Salaam would take to another room in the very large house of Khadija. The Prophet Salaam would go climbing all the way up. Which is at least a couple of hours, though Allah knows how long it used to take them. But if any of you have been up to Hira, with the paved way, how long does it take you all? What are your times? An hour? About an hour, right? That's if you're walking at a healthy pace, and you don't get attacked by one of the monkeys up there. But the point is that, you're walking up there, and hopefully none of those monkeys steal your... I actually had someone in my Hajj group, one of the monkeys stole his... He took a banana to give to one of the monkeys. And the monkey grabbed, the monkey acted like it was going to take the banana. And then it grabbed his bag instead and ran off with it. So it's like, they're a lot smarter than you think. And they know the tourists that are coming up there. So it takes about an hour to get up there, with the paved way, with the steps. Imagine back then, no steps. Nothing. That's not taking into consideration the walk to the mountain in the first place. Which the house of the Messenger, alayhi salatu wasalam, in Khadija, radiyaAllahu anha, was around the area of Marwah. Walking all the way from there to the mountain, and then up. And being in that cave all by yourself. How long did he used to do this? He used to go up there, salallahu alayhi wasalam, sometimes for a few days, sometimes for a few weeks, and then sometimes an entire month. And he would go up without coming down. Some of the women started to mock Khadija. Right? You know, you've given him everything, you've done this for him, and your husband goes away, spends a month up there. What kind of argument are you having with your husband that he goes up to a mountain, right? That's not what was happening, though, right?
But you can imagine the mockery and the words that start to be spread. When you're at that position in society, every move of yours is scrutinized. Why is the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, why is Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasalam going up to a mountain now? What's with this long break? Except Khadija radiAllahu anha, not only did she not buy into any naysayers, Khadija would go up. How old would Khadija radiAllahu alayhi wasalam have been? 54, 55 years old. Would go up the mountain herself. Take food to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. Bring stuff to him so that he did not have to come back to the home to reload, to replenish his goods. So that he could focus in his worship. She knew that this was sincere devotion and that something was happening, and she wanted to be as supportive as she could. SubhanAllah, no one told her to do that. Nor is that an expectation the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam placed on her. But this is a woman that always exceeds all expectations. She's going up there, taking food, taking drink, taking a blanket. All these things to make sure that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is well cared for. And never has to think about coming back down. Right? For any of these things. Only says good things. Only supports him. Only helps him. And then, obviously, you're imagining the climb of a woman with how many children at this point? Right? That has given birth to about 10-11 children. You know, in her late 50s. Walking up a mountain by herself, darkness of the night or the heat of the sun. Either way, it's a pretty harsh climb for you to have to make. And then the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, of course, experiences what he experiences. Jibreel alayhi wasalam comes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. And approaches the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in the cave. It is so significant. First of all, imagine how long the run of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam back down was.
I mean, it's not like he saw Jibreel was squeezed, terrified, and he could just jump out. No. He still has to make that whole walk down from the mountain. Goes to Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. You cannot underestimate first and foremost the significance of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam going to Khadijah first. Why? He could have gone to Abu Bakr, his best friend radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu. He could have gone to Abu Talib, his father figure. He could have gone to Waraka, a person who understands these things himself. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam could have gone to Hamza radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu, his uncle and one of his best friends. Hamza plays a dual role of being his uncle. His brother in Ridhaa and that they were breastfed together, same age, and his best friend. One of his best friends. Instead he goes straight to Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha, knowing that no one is going to reassure him and be more supportive than this woman. No one could possibly, no human being could comfort the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam the way that Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha could comfort the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. And I want you to think of the scene, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam bursts into the home. Tells Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha, zammiluni, cover me, cover me, hold me, embrace me. Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha does not ask any questions. Allah knows what he just saw. Allah knows, did he get attacked on the way home? What happened? She doesn't ask. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam comes in, sweating, he's shaking, hold me, embrace me. She holds him, she embraces him, she comforts him salallahu alayhi wasalam. And the hadith actually mentions that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam did not speak for some time, meaning he shook for a little bit, she's just holding him. She's not asking any questions, she's waiting to let the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam talk about what happened to him.
And when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam starts to speak, hatta dhahaba anhu rawar, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, the fear had gone from him, or he stopped shaking at least, salallahu alayhi wasalam, at that point, qala li khadijah, ay khadijah, ma li, oh khadijah, what is wrong with me, laqad khashitu ala nafsi. I'm worried about myself. That's all he said. I'm worried about myself. And he said that the one who I saw in my sleep came to me, atani aladhi, or ja'ani aladhi atani fil manam, because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam had seen Jibreel in a dream before, he recognized him, and now he saw him in the cave, this man who he saw in his dream. And I saw the one who came to me in my sleep, and that's all, when he says laqad khashitu ala nafsi, what is he telling khadijah? And by the way, if the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is fabricating something these first few years, don't really add up, because there's a Prophet who's in uncertainty, who's waiting for more guidance, who's looking, who's waiting for months and months and months and months for something to happen. But he's scared, laqad khashitu ala nafsi, I'm worried about myself. What does he mean when he says I'm worried about myself? What is he talking about? That I'm possessed? That I'm possessed? Have I lost my mind? What happened to me? Have I lost my mind? Right? So he's questioning himself. Subhanallah, in those moments, khadijah could make or break him, can't she? She could say to him, we're going to stop you from going to Hiraat for some time, go to sleep, talk about this later. She could have said something neutral. She could have said let's go to sleep right now, let me think about it. She could have called someone over. She could have immediately said let's go to waraqah. She could have said let's go to a doctor.
She could have actually criticized him again, you know, you really shouldn't be going and spending all that time in Hiraat, you should have been home. I needed you here, you went to Hiraat. She could have used it as an opportunity, she could have mocked him, anything. There are so many things she could have said to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in those moments. But subhanallah, right away, what are the first words she says? And I actually went through all the narrations, I studied all 19 narrations, I was like let me find what the first word was. And I want to be sure of it, what was it? Close. First, before that even, she said, kalla, kalla, no, and kalla is no way, abshir. These are glad tidings. Subhanallah, kalla, abshir. These are glad tidings, this is good news from Allah. And then she said, fa wallahi la yughzeekallahu abada, I swear that Allah would never disgrace you. First thing, she denies, because the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam needed to hear, I'm not crazy, did I lose my mind? Am I possessed? Kalla, of course not. No way, right? Kalla. And then abshir, don't be sad. Don't be sad. You know, subhanallah, when something like that happens, that type of a traumatic experience, first and foremost, you need that self-assurance, and then you need to be able to see the good news that is hidden in what seems to be a very difficult hardship. Khadija achieves that in two words with the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Kalla, that no, you did not lose your mind, you're not crazy, abshir, this is good news. Why? Fa wallahi la yughzeekallahu abada, your Lord would never disgrace you. You think Allah would disgrace a person like that? You think Allah would disgrace a person like you? And then she starts to tell the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam what he needs to hear.
Words of reassurance. And they're not just ambiguous words. She says, fa wallahi innaka latasir rahim. She starts to mention all these qualities. She said, first and foremost, you are someone who maintains good relations with kin. Wa tastuqul hadith. And you only speak words of truth. You only speak words of truth. You know, remember, this was one of the qualities that made her want to marry the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in the first place. You're a truthful person. You only speak words of truth. Wa tahmirul kal. And you help the poor and the destitute. No one who is poor or destitute comes to you except that you help them. Wa taksibul ma'doon. Okay? So, taksibul kal, kasb refers to more of the rizq part, the sustenance part. And taking care of. Tahmirul kal, taksibul ma'doon means you don't just spend on people, you actually carry their burden as well. When people have burdens, you don't just spend on them, you actually carry their burdens as well. And then he says, wa takrid dhaif. She says, wa takrid dhaif. You entertain your guests. You're even good with your guests. Wa tu'ino ala nawa'i bil haq. And you assist those who are stricken with calamities. You are always there for those who are in hardship. SubhanAllah, in these few sentences, that is, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam came down with revelation. Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha has inspiration. How does she come up with those words? If you were to actually take the time to come up with those words for that moment, you would not be able to come up with better words. She reassured the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in so many different ways. First of all, notice the reasons she mentions that Allah would not disgrace the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, and then compare it to what would come down of Qur'an later on, over 13 years later, in Surah Al-Baqarah.
Al-Baqarah 133 Allah says, Righteousness is not that you turn your faces towards the East or the West, but righteousness is one who believes in Allah, the last day, the angels, the book, the prophets, and gives out of their wealth, in spite of their love for it, to relatives, to orphans, to the needy, to the travelers, to those who ask for help, for the freeing of slaves, and who establishes prayer and gives zakah, those who fulfill their promises when they make promises and those who are patient in poverty and hardship and during struggle, those are the ones who have been truthful and it is they who are righteous. Khadijah radhiyaAllahu anha, her description of why Allah would not disgrace the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam actually already matches up with Qur'an that would come later on. SubhanAllah, she could have said Allah would not disgrace you and she could have said you never worshipped the idols, you did this, you did that, but she mentioned these reasons that actually line up almost exactly with what Allah would describe as righteousness in the Qur'an in Surat al-Baqarah. And also some of the scholars mentioned Khadijah radhiyaAllahu anha mentioning these things, this confidence that she has in the Messenger salallahu alayhi wasalam is important because no one knows the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam like her. This is his only wife. They have been married now for 15 years. No one knows the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam better than her. And so those words of confidence coming from your spouse are particularly significant.
This isn't some poet in front of the Kaaba saying all these words about your wife, your spouse saying that about you. Also knowing that rich people, wealthy people usually don't do the things that you do. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was not transformed by his wealth, by the wealth that came to him when he married Khadijah, but instead he used that for more noble things and more truthful and charitable things. And this here makes Khadijah radhiyaAllahu anha not just the first believer here. She actually is believing in the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam before the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is certain of himself. Think about how incredible that is. She's telling the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam before he's sure of himself that I'm sure of you. That's tasdiq, confirming his truthfulness before even hearing it from him. I'm sure you are upon the truth. I'm sure that Allah would not let you be disgraced. She says let's go to waraqa. That was her idea to go to waraqa. Fas'alu ahl al-dhikri in kuntum la ta'lamoon. Ask the people of knowledge if you don't know any better. And by the way, we mentioned waraqa made this comment and said that if I live to see when your people run you out, la ansuranaka nasran muazzara, that I will support you with everything I have. I will consume myself. I'll stand by your side and fight along your side. You think Khadija radiyaAllahu anha sitting there hearing waraqa say that didn't affect her? Like that's going to be my mission then. Right? I mean if you were to describe Khadija's support for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, it's nasran muazzara. It is undying support throughout it all. It is what waraqa desired to do, that Khadija radiyaAllahu anha would do. After that time, remember there was a pause where Jibreel did not come back for some time.
The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was seeing Jibreel alayhi wasalam in human form, in his human figure. But the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was not able to confirm anything at this point. He hadn't been called at this point. Khadija radiyaAllahu anha says, if you see Jibreel again, the next time you see him I want you to tell me. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, I see him. Khadija radiyaAllahu anha said, sit on my right side. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam sat on her right side. She said, do you see him? The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, yes. She said, sit on my left side. She said, do you see him? He said, yes. So then Khadija radiyaAllahu anha sat behind him, put her arms around him and her legs around him. So like he's sitting in her grasp. And then on top of that, she takes off, now it says she removed her khimar, meaning she removed, you know, at that point the women used to wear something on their head. And then obviously when the order came down, then they moved it over and they tied it, right? So she removed her khimar and she held him and she said, do you see him? And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, no. This is an interesting narration, right? And then she says, be firm, this is an angel, not a devil. That's Khadija radiyaAllahu anha. What just happened, right? Even the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, what do you mean? How do you know? Because she was talking about the haya of Jibreel alayhi wasalam, the modesty of this angel. She said that if it was a shaitan, the shaitan would stay around, but Jibreel had modesty and shyness. That this angel would have modesty and shyness, so the angel would not stay if he perceived intimacy or something of that line.
Jibreel alayhi wasalam would give salam from the outside. So Khadija radiyaAllahu anha is figuring this out. As a woman, obviously she's the cousin of Waraqa, she's a wise woman, a noble woman, but she's figuring things out herself, and she is guided naturally towards this goodness. And this is what we hear from the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, there are people who are muhaddathoon, they are just guided to natural goodness by the angels. Like Umar al-Khattab radiyaAllahu anha. It's as if they're receiving revelation because they have certain inclinations. And so, then the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, obviously some time passes and he does not get the command of revelation. So though he saw Jibreel alayhi wasalam, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam did not get revelation. Again, if he's fabricating this, and if the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was cooking up this story for a very long time, at the age of 40 he would have prepared the groundwork, came out and said, everyone, it has come to me, and he would have had this grand entrance. But there are months passing by. And Khadijah is the one comforting him. And then, subhanAllah, the hadith of Jabir ibn Abdullah, where the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam went out and he saw Jibreel alayhi wasalam in his full angelic form. This was the first time he saw Jibreel alayhi wasalam in his full angelic form, sitting on a throne between the heavens and the earth, covering the entirety of the horizon, and coming near the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam ran back to Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha, once again said, zamiluni, zamiluni. Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha embraced the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, though this time there is a history that happened some time ago, right, where she knows what must have happened. And at that moment, the next revelation of the Qur'an, Surat al-Muddathir.
Ya ayyuhal muddathir, kum fa'andhir, O you who is wrapped up, stand up and call, that revelation comes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam while he's in the arms of Khadijah. Think about how significant that is. That the revelation of Surat al-Muddathir came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in the arms of Khadijah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha, O you who is wrapped up, arise and mourn, and your Lord magnify and keep pure your garments and desert the idols, abandon the idols. So subhanAllah when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam sees Jibreel in human form the first time, he goes to her. When he sees him in angelic form, he goes to her again. And Surat al-Muddathir is revealed in her arms radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha, and after Surat al-Muddathir came, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said, you are the first one I'm calling to this message, and Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha said, and I am the first one to accept this message. I'm not going to question it. Simply no hesitation, supporting him salallahu alayhi wasalam. So she is the first Muslim, the first believer, the first of many things as I'll say. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam says, that sleep is gone. We're not going to sleep anymore after this. The time of sleep is gone, that time of peace that we had is gone now. That the tribulations that are going to come, that waraqa warned of, certainly those tribulations will come. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam made his first wudu and his first prayer with Khadijah. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam made his first tawaf with Khadijah. He would pray his qiyam with Khadijah. Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha sold away her clothes and her goods and spent on the call of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, spent on the da'wah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. When the Prophet was boycotted, this is probably the most, subhanAllah this one is heartbreaking. Because you can imagine emotionally what it did to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. You don't think, as much as he loved Khadijah, you don't think he felt guilty, seeing this
man of empathy, seeing the pain that the da'wah was causing her. That suddenly, it's not just him going down, being rejected and pelted and slandered and losing everything. She's losing everything too. But when the boycott happens, when the boycott happened, the boycott was of two tribes, Banu Hashim and Banu Mutallib. Khadijah's not included in either of those tribes. Khadijah technically could have avoided the boycott, meaning she could have stayed on the outside of the ghetto that was created, the area that was created, that was wired off, no one's allowed to go there, prohibited from food and drink. She could have stayed on the outside in the comfort of her home and supported her husband from there. But Khadijah insisted on being with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam when the boycott of Banu Hashim and Banu Mutallib happened, and on top of that Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha used what she had of connection to her cousin, her nephew, Hakeem Nuhizam radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu, to secretly sneak in food, because the people were starving. So Khadijah used her connection to sneak in food into the area of the boycott. And what did Khadijah eat? Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha, a woman who lived her entire life in wealth, beauty, elegance, she ate grass to survive. So even the food that came in, she donated it, she distributed it, she spent it on everyone else. SubhanAllah, complete selflessness. Imagine the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam looking at her, becoming frail, losing her weight, becoming bony, becoming sick all the time all of a sudden. She was an old woman at this point, right? She's now in her 60s. And not only that, never once complains. This is the amazing thing about her. She never once says, why is this happening to me? You did this to me. None of that.
Complete acceptance of that which she has. And there's a narration from Ibn Sunni rahimahullah ta'ala that Jibreel alayhi wasalam met Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha in the streets in the form of a man, which we know in the narrations of hadith that sometimes Allah would send an angel in the form of a man that would ask a question about the hal of the people, about how they were doing. That Jibreel alayhi wasalam asked Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha about her situation and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and she said nothing but praise of the Prophet and gratitude to Allah. And then obviously in the last moments of Khadijah, when she's about to die, this woman that believed in him, gave him everything, loved him, supported him, encouraged him, now 25 years, 25 years. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam married her at 25 and these 25 years, one of the only monogamous marriages in Mecca. He's married to her only. Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam never had a jariah, never had a wife, nothing. Just her. And Khadijah radiyaAllahu anha losing herself, dying, literally from eating grass in a boycott that she voluntarily is participating in. She voluntarily is in that boycott. And then the hadith in al-Bukhari from Abu Huraira radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu, that Jibreel alayhi wasalam came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam sitting in his living room, this is during the last days, and he says to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, Ya Rasool Allah, O Messenger of Allah, hadhi khadijah, qad atat ma'aha ina'un feehi idamun aw ta'amun aw sharaab. He said, O Messenger of Allah, this is Khadijah coming to you. She's carrying a dish that has some soup or some food or some drink.
And he says to her, fa'itha hiya atatka, when she comes to you, akri' alayhi wasalam min rabbiha. Tell her that Allah sends salam to you. Allah, give her salam from her Lord. SubhanAllah, Jibreel conveying a salam specific to Khadijah from Allah. Another first, the first person to receive salam from Allah in this ummah. Not just that, wa minnee as-salam, and give Khadijah my salam too. So tell her Allah sends salam, and tell her that Jibreel alayhi wasalam sends his salam, wa minnee as-salam, wa bashshirha bi baytin fil jannah min qasab la sakhaba feehi wa la nasab. And give her the glad tidings of a pearl palace, a palace made of pearls in jannah, in paradise, and there will be no noise or fatigue in that home. SubhanAllah. Imam Suhaili says qasab, the pearls, because Khadijah gave away all of her pearls for the sake of Allah. She didn't have any more jewelry, she didn't have any more of that goodness, so you're going to have a whole house of those jewels, the most expensive pearls that you gave away, you spent for the sake of Allah. La sakhaba feehi wa la nasab, no noise, irtifa'a as-saut, or exhaustion or fatigue. And Suhaili says because she never raised her voice at the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam once, nor did she ever tire him. She always was a source of peace, comfort, tranquility to him. So Allah would give her eternal tranquility as a result of that. No more noise, no exhaustion. And some of the scholars mention because of the taunting of the people of Mecca, at this point now, you don't walk out of your house without the people of Mecca yelling at you, cursing you, throwing things at you, harassing you.
So give her the glad tidings of a palace in paradise made of pearls, she will hear no noise and no fatigue within. Khadijah radiAllahu anha walks in, she's holding this tray, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam says Allah sends his salam to you. Or he says, hatha Jibreel, Jibreel is here, and he says that Allah sends salam to you, and Jibreel sends salam to you, and gives you the glad tidings of a home in paradise made of pearls. There is no noise and no fatigue therein. Khadijah radiAllahu anha smiles, she says, innaAllaha huwa salam. She says Allah is the source of salam, the source of peace. So I can't say wa alayka salam, but innaAllaha huwa salam. Wa ala Jibreel, salam. And to Gabriel, my salam. Wa alayka anta ya Rasool Allah, salam wa rahmatullah. And though the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam did not give salam to her per se, she said, and upon you, O Messenger of Allah, the peace and the mercy of Allah. So she added the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in her response. SubhanAllah, this is Jibreel who came to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, sent him into the arms of Khadijah twice, and now comes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam to tell the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam basically that Khadijah's time is wrapping up. This was a sign, as Ibn Hajar rahimAllah says, that the time of Khadijah was near, that she was about to die. And Abu Talib had died, this is in the year 620, Abu Talib died at the age of 80 years old. Khadijah radiAllahu anha died only, according to some narrations, three days after Abu Talib. Three days. Imagine that hardship. Your father figure, the only person who protected you and cared for you, he dies. And then your emotional support, your mental support, your love, Khadijah radiAllahu anha dies right after at the age of 65. This was in Ramadan, but Ramadan had not yet become a month of fasting.
So she actually passed away in Ramadan, in that year of 620, and they were married at that point for 25 years, radiAllahu ta'ala anha. The narrations are very painful to go through here, because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam buried her himself. So he himself went into the grave of Khadijah radiAllahu anha, and he received the body of Khadijah radiAllahu ta'ala anha. And there was no ghusl or janaza yet, but you can imagine that this was the woman that held the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and comforted him when revelation came to him. And now the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is comforting Khadijah radiAllahu anha, putting her into the grave, and how painful that must have been for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. That's an experience that never leaves him, salallahu alayhi wasalam. Right? That he has to do that. And her grave is just a stone's throw from Abu Talib's grave, by the way. It's in Jannatul Mu'alla. If you go to Jannatul Mu'alla in Mecca, it's right next to it, and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is burying Khadijah radiAllahu anha, and receiving her in the grave himself, salallahu alayhi wasalam, and placing her there and comforting her. For the last time, that woman whose arms grabbed the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and comforted him so many times, and now he's grabbing her lifeless body, a body that strove. I mean, she became that way, frail, because of her support of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, and burying her there, and making dua in a very organic way, just supplicating to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for mercy upon her. Ammar ibn Yasir says that we feared for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam after her death, that he would die soon after. Subhanallah, min shiddati hiznihi, from the amount of grief that he had, salallahu alayhi wasalam, when she passed away. Hamad ibn Salama said the people left the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam alone, because they feared to ask him anything, because they did not want to add to his stress, because they felt like he would die.
They legitimately feared. You know when you see an elderly couple, subhanallah, sometimes when an elderly person passes away, you fear what would happen to the next one. That's how they felt about the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. They feared that he would die very soon, because he could not bear the grief of Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam used to be heard loudly weeping at night in his home, consoling Fatima radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha, his only daughter that was left with him in the home, salallahu alayhi wasalam. And even after she passed away, most of the narrations about Khadija are from Aisha radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. Why? Because Aisha radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha said that I was never jealous of a woman the way I was jealous of Khadija, and I never even met her. I never met her. The dead wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, she said I was so jealous of her. And she said every day, 13 years after his death, she said wallahi a day did not pass except that he mentioned her. You imagine that? 13 years with everything going on. The Badr, the Uhud, the Khandaq, the Fath, all that stuff. And he would never go a day without mentioning her. She says laa yakadoo yakhruju minal bayti hattaa yathkuru khadija. He would not leave his home in the morning until he mentioned Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. Yuhsinoothanaa alayha. He would praise her. Fadhakaraaha yawmin minal ayyaam faakhadatni alghira. So one day the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was going on and on about her and she said I became overcome with my jealousy. And that's when she said that I stood up and I said to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, hasn't Allah given you someone better than this toothless woman, old woman from Quraysh? Like she pushed her luck. She said I said to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, awa laysa Allahu abdalaka khayran minha?
Called her the old woman, toothless woman of Quraysh. Didn't Allah give you someone better than her? And she said that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, his face changed in a way that it would not change except revelation was coming to him. That's the power of the face change of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. As if Quran was being revealed to him. She said he was angry, his hair stood salallahu alayhi wasalam. And he said to her, he did not belittle Aisha. And notice Aisha is the one narrating this. This is beautiful because our mother Aisha narrates this to show the virtues of Khadija. To show the virtues of Khadija and the character of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam. She said the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam stood up and he said, wallahi ma abdalani Allahu khayran minha? He said I swear by Allah, Allah did not replace her with someone better than her. Aamanat bi ith kafra bi an-naas. She believed in me when everyone else disbelieved. So subhanAllah, you talk about the first. Aamanat bi ith kafra bi an-naas. When everyone disbelieved in me, she believed in me. Sadaqatni ith kathabani an-naas. She considered me truthful when other people considered me to be a liar. Wawasatni bi maaliha ith harramani an-naas. Anfaqat bi ith harramani an-naas. She spent her money on me. She didn't just give me these empty words, she spent her money on me. When other people held back. Warazaqani allahu waladaha ith harramani awlaad an-nisa. And Allah gave me children through her. And He did not give me children through other women. That this is the mother of my children, she's all this to me. No, Allah did not give me someone better than her. And Aisha radiyaAllahu anha said, I knew from that moment never to push that button again. Never cross that line of saying anything about Khadija. Khadija was off limits for the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. She said, anytime the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam slaughtered some sheep, he would take a few pieces of the sheep, he'd put it to the side,
and he'd tell someone, arsilu ila astiqa'i Khadija. Go send it to the friends of Khadija. And when Hala, the sister of Khadija, when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would hear her voice, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam would peak. And he would look around and he would say, Allahumma Hala, Allahumma Hala, O Allah ta'ala, O Allah ta'ala. And actually it's, O Allah let it be Hala. Meaning, I hope I'm actually hearing because Hala had the voice of Khadija. So he wanted to be reminded. So Aisha said, so they would sit together and they would remember Khadija. Hours and hours just remembering Khadija. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam just longed for any memory of Khadija radiyaAllahu anha. Aisha says, one time this old woman came to the house, and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam treated her with so much kindness, he emptied out the whole house for her, and I thought she was just a beggar in the street or something. So I said, tuqbilo ala hadhi al ajuz, hadhil iqbal, like you greeted this elderly person like that? And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said, innaha kana ta'tina zamana khadija. She used to come to us during the days of Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. So I remember seeing her during the days of Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. And this is a beautiful thing. Aisha radiyaAllahu anha said, and wallahi the reason why I was jealous of her, this is also important, she said, laqad aamarahu rabbuhu an yubashshiraha bi baytin fil jannah. That Allah had actually commanded the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam to give her the glad tidings of a home in paradise. So Aisha longed for that as well. I know I took long. I'll just mention these last two stories which I think are very important. When the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam saw the necklace of Khadija radiyaAllahu anha, the Prophet's daughter Zainab al-Kubra was married to Abu al-As ibn al-Rabi' and Abu al-As was a good man but he didn't accept Islam because of tribal affiliations.
And so he fought on the day of Badr but he didn't fight hard. He kind of kept his weapons to the side, just went out with the people on the day of Badr, just because he had to as a matter of formality. And he was captured. And when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam saw him, the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was hurt. Obviously the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was hurt seeing a lot of people but this is his son-in-law. And he wanted to be fair. I'm not going to treat my uncle al-Abbas or my son-in-law differently. They're all treated the same way. And they ransomed their prisoners with gold or wealth and if they had nothing they would teach them how to read. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said if you can teach 10 Muslims how to read or write you can go. So he wanted just to establish something. And then the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam is presented this necklace. And it was a necklace that Khadija gave to Zaynab. And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam he saw that necklace and he cried for a while. And the Sahaba did not know why he was crying. So he sat down and he wept for some time salallahu alayhi wa sallam. This is years later. And then he said salallahu alayhi wa sallam after crying for some time he said In shi'tum atlaqtum laha aseeraha waradattum ilayha qiladataha He said listen if you want please release her prisoner and return her gold too. Return her necklace to her too. And she didn't even ask for the necklace back. But the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said go ahead and return her necklace to her as well. Even though she only wanted her husband back the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam said send it back. Finally when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam comes back to Mecca. Fath Mecca victorious. After all that had happened the conquest of Mecca coming back to the same place that he was persecuted. The persecution that led to the death of Khadija. And the people invite the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam to stay in these nicer homes. Stay in the home of Al Abbas. Stay in the home of Abu Sufyan. Stay in some of the nicer homes in Mecca.
So they keep asking the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam where are you going to go? Where are you going to go? Where did he go? He pitched a tent next to the grave of Khadija. Subhanallah he said take me to Hajun. Take me back to Hajun. He didn't even go to the home that they used to live in. He pitched the tent near the grave of Khadija. This is a woman that never prayed Fajr, Dhuhr, Asr, Maghrib, Isha. This is a woman that never fasted Ramadan. This is a woman that did not see Islam formulate as it did post Medina. But it's her sacrifice in the beginning that makes it all happen. She is what the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam needed throughout those moments. He had no one like her. There is literally no equivalent to her. So anyway, she's the first mother of the believers. First wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. First to believe. The first Muslim. First person to receive the glad tidings of Jannah. The first one to receive Salam from Allah. The first one to receive Salam from Jibreel alayhi salam. The first one to worship with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam in prayer. The first one to do Tawaf with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. Her support of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam is not just inspiring. But if you took all of the ayat about how you're supposed to support the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, she manifests them. So she spent on him, she loved him, she loved what he loved, she believed in him, she believed him. Everything that's told to us about how to treat the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, she did that. Her natural guidance to good. She is perfection in every way. Literally perfect in her Iman. And I want to end with just this one hadith. It's a simple statement. The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Wallahi inni qad ruziqtu hubbaha. He said, I swear that I was blessed with her love. Allah blessed me with her love. Like her love was a gift to me. Subhanallah, it was rizq.
You know it's like something you say about someone you don't deserve. Right, like it's rizq. I don't know how I got it. But I got it somehow. Ruziqtu hubbaha. Like Allah blessed me with her love. I needed that love. I needed that person to be able to get through it. Fajazahullahu khayran a'an ummati Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah reward her for her sacrifice. May Allah reward her for her struggle. And you can imagine that as the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam passed from this world, from the lap of Aisha radiyaAllahu anha, his soul ascending with Jibreel alayhi wa sallam, into the realm of souls, we can only imagine who he probably wanted to see first in arwah al-mu'mineen, amongst the souls of the believers to be gathered with at that point. We ask Allah to gather us with him salallahu alayhi wa sallam, with our first mother and his first love Khadija radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha. We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make us from the sabiqoon. Allahuma ameen. I apologize, this is probably the longest halaqa in the series, so I promise not to take longer than that inshallah in the future. So I'll take questions now. Yeah. So the question is, how would you not use, or how would you not let the incident of the angel, the fact that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was shaking, his uncertainty in himself, could be used as a critique against him. I think it's actually one of the strongest arguments for his sincerity salallahu alayhi wa sallam. And first of all, a person who reads biblical narrations, I mean if you read about the prophets of old and the way that Jabir al-Islam came to them, some of them had much more interesting ways in which they were marked for prophethood and inducted into that fraternity of prophets, right? So this is a pretty amazing, it's a powerful experience. It's the experience of going from being an ordinary person to being that prophet of Allah, right? And not just any prophet of Allah, but Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam. And Waraka knew, interestingly enough, Waraka knew, and I actually want to read one of the biblical narrations here because it's very powerful.
And when I used to teach the story of Jabir al-Islam in detail, I would always mention this narration because it was very interesting to me because Waraka said that this is the namus that came to Musa alayhi salam, this is the same angel that came to Moses, that your experience resembles what happened to Musa alayhi salam. So I actually, when I was reading that hadith and getting some input in that, I actually wanted to go see if I could find a biblical passage that mentions Gabriel coming to a prophet in the beginning of prophethood. So I found Daniel 8, Behold, I saw a man before me with a booming voice saying, Understand, Iqra, it's very similar to that. As he touched me and recited the word to me, I fell on my face trembling and lost all strength, but I could still hear his words. Then he stood me upright and said, Fear not, O beloved one of God, Fear not, peace be unto you. It's almost identical to what happened to the prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam. It actually is pretty much identical. So this is the way that Gabriel alayhi salam brings the message. It's a heavy revelation. And there is that period of sorting things out, and that's the wisdom of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and that person growing. So the fact that if the prophet was a fabricator, so there are different lines of attack. If he was a fabricator, he would have planned a much more grand entrance to announcing his prophethood than that uncertainty and that hardship that he went through in the beginning. If he was possessed, then what about the truths and the prophecies and the miracles that started to come down, the eloquence of the Quran, which was unchallenged in its beauty and its eloquence and its superiority to anything else that the Arabs had ever heard. So how do you explain that? How do you explain and contextualize all of the miracles? So that's something that's another line of attack that you would respond to.
All in all, Sheikh Mohammed al-Shanawi did a series called the Proofs of Prophethood for Yaqeen and mashaAllah he researched it thoroughly, taking some of the old literature of Dalal and Nubuwa, the Proofs of Prophethood, and putting them into chapters. So you can actually go and you can read through the Proofs of Prophethood inshaAllah ta'ala. It's publications and they have infographics, videos, the whole thing. But it's very systematic there and it's just wonderful mashaAllah.
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