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Umm Habiba (ra) - Part 2: Royalty Redefined
Umm Habiba (ra) never defined herself by who her father or tribe were. Instead, she always remained grateful for what Allah had given her through her husband.
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This transcript was auto-generated using AI and may contain misspellings. As-salamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu. And welcome back to the first. Bismillah walhamdulillah wassalatu wassalamu ala rasulullah wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa man wala. So inshallah ta'ala I have some good news and some bad news before I continue. The bad news I'll start off with first is that inshallah ta'ala I'm going to be taking a break inshallah ta'ala for the next month from this series and we will resume bi'idhnillahi ta'ala in the first week of February inshallah. The good news is that inshallah ta'ala from February until Ramadan we should complete 40 episodes total with the first bi'idhnillahi ta'ala and inshallah ta'ala we'll pick up afterwards. And the good news as well, it's more good news than bad news, is that inshallah ta'ala throughout the month of January we'll be working on our Ramadan series as well as another series that is very relevant to things that are happening right now inshallah ta'ala. So we'll be preparing other content of benefit bi'idhnillahi ta'ala which we'll fill you all in on inshallah and give you a chance to catch up on what you've missed from the first and then pick up in a few weeks bi'idhnillahi ta'ala so that we can move forward. So jazakumullahu khayran for tuning in for all of these weeks and I hope this gives you a chance to review the notes inshallah and to catch up for those of you that have not been able to watch all of the previous episodes alhamdulillah. So here we are now and inshallah what we're going to do is complete the story of Umm Habibah radiallahu ta'ala anha and just like we did with Umm Salama radiallahu ta'ala anha where we stopped at that juncture right that critical point where she has now you know really gone through this major transition where she's going to be in the companionship of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and there's a unique element to her being a wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in the case of Umm Habibah radiallahu ta'ala anha before I even get into the next part of her story
I want us to actually just take a moment to think about how incredible this woman's istiqama her commitment to faith actually is right first of all she became Muslim and she faced what she faced from Abu Sufyan and her family in Mecca for becoming Muslim and then she stays firm upon Islam when she's called to migrate she could have held back in Mecca and told Ubaidullah bin Jahsh you go I'll stay here in Mecca because I would likely not be persecuted because of my position with Abu Sufyan but she stayed firm with her faith through the migration to Abyssinia she stays firm upon her Islam despite her husband you know passing away and reportedly even leaving Islam going through the apostasy and the death of her husband Ubaidullah bin Jahsh she stays firm upon Islam despite her father you know assuming the role of being the chief antagonist against the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and his community and she stays firm through all of these years you know just her and her daughter in Abyssinia going through the hardships of being in a community in exile so subhanAllah I mean when you think about istiqama when you think about the strength of faith that was necessary uniquely to Umm Salama radiyaAllahu anha with the types of trials that she faced and uniquely to Umm Habiba radiyaAllahu ta'ala anha where there were multiple opportunities for her to walk away from her faith but she did not in fact she only became stronger in her faith and there's a reason why Allah chose to honor her with what he honored her with and being a wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam this is not a blessing that Allah confers upon anyone this is a very special blessing that was conferred upon her and it is very clear that this is a special woman in regards to her faith and her commitment to that faith so we said now that she has completed the wedding to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam
but you talk about a long you know katib kitab phase right the contract has been written everything has been done but for six years she's not going to be with her husband and in the process her daughter Habiba is growing up before her eyes and is just her and her daughter and the special relationship that she has developed with Abraha may Allah be pleased with them all finally the time comes where the delegation of the people of the two hijras is now making its way to make that hijra to Medina that migration to Medina and Ja'far radiAllahu ta'ala anhu leads a delegation of 16 families from Abyssinia to Medina directly to Medina and this is seven years after hijra with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam after the treaty of Hudaybiyyah and so there is safety for them to be able to make way without being persecuted without being caught along the way and treated in any different way so there's the joy that all of them have of being able to join the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam but there's the unique joy that Umm Habiba radiAllahu ta'ala anhu would have she has been away from her land and been away from her family and been away from her community and her home for 13 years in the process she sacrificed her livelihood lost her husband had a baby and now Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala has honored her with marriage to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and so they arrive in Medina at the end of the month of Safar or right in the beginning of Rabi'ul Awal seven years after hijra and she meets the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam once again but this time not only as a Muslim but also as his wife and as she made her way to Medina to be the wife of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam she was also reunited with Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anhu
who she had a special relationship with Umm Salama and Umm Habiba lived in Abyssinia together they both left Mecca with their husbands to Abyssinia in similar circumstances and both of them ended up marrying the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam through very different circumstances but their journeys have a unique similarity right they both left with their husbands to Abyssinia had children in Abyssinia and were widowed in unique ways and then both found their way to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam now married to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and she had a special friendship with Umm Salama radiAllahu ta'ala anhu in fact you find numerous narrations of them reminiscing on Abyssinia together and describing it to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam so listen to this hadith for example Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala anhu narrating that Umm Habiba and Umm Salama were describing a church that they saw in Abyssinia to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam that's a pretty cool narration in and of itself right Aisha radiAllahu anhu is the narrator and she's talking about this incident where Umm Habiba and Umm Salama are telling the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam what they witnessed in Abyssinia of a church and these three women in this order Aisha then Umm Salama and Umm Habiba are the most of those who narrated on behalf of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam okay so you have this narration that encompasses all three of them and they described to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam a particular church in Abyssinia and they said that it had in it tasawwir it had you know all sorts of pictures and tombs and so they were shocked by the tombs and the pictures and the portrayals that they were seeing in that church and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam he said that you know when a pious person amongst them passes away
that they build a place of worship on his grave and then they decorate it with these types of pictures and that these would be the worst of the people on Yawm al Qiyamah in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala so this is a hadith in Sahih Muslim that actually brings all three of them together however her response to marrying the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam is different than Umm Salama radiAllahu anha in one very marked way, Umm Salama radiAllahu anha if you remember asked the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam or she told the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam that she was a jealous woman and that she was not used to the idea of you know being in a polygamous marriage even if it was common at the time and common in their environment certainly and common amongst the companions of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam that she had not encountered or experienced what that was like Umm Habiba radiAllahu anha on the other hand this is an authentic narration she says to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam Ya Rasulullah would you also marry my sister Azzah now I mentioned last week and I was actually wrong that Umm Habiba did not have any full siblings she did have a few sisters that were full siblings but her famous brothers Yazid ibn Abi Sufyan and Muawiyah ibn Abi Sufyan were half brothers so they had a different mother so she says to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam would you marry my sister Azzah now the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was obviously very surprised by that request so he says to her Atuhibbina thalik is this a trick question would you like me to marry your sister as well so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam did not say is this a trick question that's the sentiment that I may or may not be correct in conveying but the point is that do you want me to marry your sister and she says to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam she said Ya Rasulullah I'm not your only wife and I would hope that the person who would join me in this fortune would also be my sister
and so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam he says that this is not lawful for me this is not halal for me and the reason why that's significant by the way is that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allowed the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam to marry more than what he allowed the other Muslims and there was a wisdom behind every one of those marriages right none of them or all of them were widows and divorcees other than Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha and each one of them there is a very detectable wisdom in the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam marrying them as we said in the case of Umm Salama also in the case of Umm Habiba in whose hearts were softened and what tribes were brought together that is something that you find in each one of the marriages of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam that's sort of hikmah that you see there so the assumption that's being made here is that you know perhaps some of the other rules of marriage do not apply to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam right so for example being married to sisters is haram in Islam it's you know narrated in some of the biblical books about other prophets that married sisters but that's not something that is confirmed or outright rejected certainly is not allowed in Islam so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam says that's not allowed for me and she said I then said to Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasalam but we had discussed that maybe you would marry Durra bint Abi Salama Durra the daughter of Umm Salama and Abu Salama so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said you mean the daughter of Abu Salama so she said yes and Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasalam said first of all she's my stepdaughter so even if she were not a stepdaughter of mine she would not be halal for me because remember Abu Salama is my brother through feeding right that they were both nursed by Thuwayba so just like you know she wouldn't be halal for me for that reason she would not be halal for me for this reason as well so the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam said so don't offer me your daughters and your sisters right
this is a you know in my opinion subhanAllah you know if you take a step back and obviously there are all sort of societal circumstances and things to consider and you know family dynamics and culture but one thing is for sure that if the you know the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was an opportunist right the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam would discard all of these types of things the fact that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam married who he married right and not a single woman who was not previously married other than Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha and waited this long right to get married into his 50s when polygamy was the norm at the time really is actually a proof of his prophethood right it's a proof that he only acted upon divine instruction and that's actually something to admire because if the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam was changing rules at Thuwayba then he would have done so here so this is one of those narrations where you find very different interaction between Umm Habiba and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam then you find from Umm Salama radiallahu ta'ala anha and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam may Allah be pleased with all of our mothers Allahuma Ameen now when she came into Medina as we said this is after Hudaybiyah and there's a time of peace as we know the Meccans broke the treaty of Hudaybiyah now when they broke the treaty of Hudaybiyah at that point the Muslims were a lot stronger than when Hudaybiyah was actually drawn up right because Islam thrives in peace Islam thrives when the da'wa is able to move forward unhindered the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam community had grown exponentially in this time of peace and the Meccans were the ones who violated the treaty and they knew that that was not a good move for them that they were going to be in deep trouble because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam had more members to his community now right they were not in a vulnerable situation the way that they were before
so once the Meccans broke Hudaybiyah Abu Sufyan panicked remember Abu Sufyan is the chief antagonist of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam at this point and he panics because of the broken treaty so he comes to Medina to reaffirm the treaty and to say to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam you know we still have terms and let's not let this one incident do away with the treaty of Hudaybiyah so he goes to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam in Medina what does the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam do? the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam gets up and he leaves he goes to Abu Bakr Abu Bakr radiallahu ta'ala anhu gets up and he walks away from him Abu Sufyan goes to Umar radiallahu ta'ala anhu and he's lucky that Umar did not punch him right or hurt him you know Umar radiallahu ta'ala anhu ignores him walks away from him even tries with Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anha Fatima who had witnessed the cruelty that was used against her father Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wasalam while Abu Sufyan was on the sidelines laughing and knew everything that had taken place in Mecca and went through that pain but Abu Sufyan knew that Fatima had a way to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam heart so he tried with Fatima radiallahu ta'ala anhu that also did not work so after trying speaking to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and then Abu Bakr and then Umar trying Fatima there are some other narrations that mention some other companions right after going around trying to find a way to affirm the treaty so that the Meccans do not find themselves in a bad space he then goes to Um Habiba radiallahu ta'ala anha his own daughter and he has not seen her for years he enters into the house of Um Habiba and realize that the house of Um Habiba is the house of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and as he enters into her home she was sitting on her bed and remember that the bed of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam
was a simple palm mattress it was nothing fancy it would leave marks on the back of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and he had a singular blanket so she's sitting on the bed they would use it as a couch during the day and they would use it as a bed at night that's how simple the life the hujurat the chambers of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam were so Abu Sufyan enters in Um Habiba is there she quickly folds up the mattress and she sits on the floor and that was a very curious action from Um Habiba in front of her father because what was expected is that her father would walk in and her father would sit next to her on the bed so Abu Sufyan looks at that and he says to her Ya abuniyyati araghibti bihadhal firashi anni aw bi anhum am I too good for the bed or is the bed too good for me is the mattress too good for me or am I too good for the mattress you know what is this this action that you just took and so she actually affirms that no actually this is the bed of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and the bed is too good for you you're not worthy of sitting on the same space that the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam sits right so you know she actually does not allow for Abu Sufyan to sit on the bed of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam next to her and this is where Abu Sufyan really finds that the doors are closing in his face and he's not able to make way with the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam and the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam makes his way towards towards the conquest of Mecca, but what is the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam do when he gets to Mecca the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam shows them an unparalleled level of mercy and generosity one that they had never given to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam The had never given the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam a portion of that when he was at their mercy when the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam was making his way towards that is when Abu Sufyan embraced Islam Islam and that is one of course a lot of people embraced Islam and the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave amnesty to all of his enemies all of those except for a few that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had had named that posed an active danger to the community the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave a general amnesty to the population of Mecca despite all that they had done to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam makes his way towards Mecca. When Abu Sufyan accepted Islam and Muawiyah accepted Islam and Yazid Ibn Abi Sufyan accepted Islam you know it's narrated that Umm Habibah's longest two sajdas were the day that Abu Sufyan accepted Islam and then Muawiyah accepted Islam and that she of course loved her family and that this was something that was natural for these people even if they had the you know the disputes and they had the persecution that they suffered they wanted their family members to change they wanted them to embrace Islam they wanted them to repent from all of the horrible things that they had done and Umm Habibah is no different with her father and with her brother and so there's actually narration where she's making dua the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam enters upon her making dua and she's saying Allahumma amte'ni bi zawji Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam wa bi abi Abi Sufyan wa bi akhi Muawiyah so Allah allow me to accompany my you know give me she's basically asking for a long life alongside the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and Abu Sufyan and her brother Muawiyah to derive the pleasure of the companionship of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and Abu Sufyan and her brother Muawiyah and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said to her you have asked Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala about a period of life that is already set and the length of days that are already allotted and the sustenances which have already been fixed and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala would not do anything earlier than its due time nor would he delay anything beyond
its due time and had you asked Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to protect you from a thabil qabr and a thabil nar then that would have been better for you as well and it would have been a better it would have been good for you and better for you also so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was encouraging her instead to make dua for the akhira in regards to the messenger alayhis salatu wasalam and Muawiyah and Abu Sufyan now this is another layer into the first right Abu Sufyan is one of the last. to embrace Islam and there are certainly many people that embraced Islam at the very last moment in Fath Mecca and the conquest of Mecca and there is a narration that from Ibn Abbas radiAllahu ta'ala anhuma that the Muslims did not like Abu Sufyan they didn't respect him they didn't want to sit with him they had a lot of bent up anger and you know pent up anger and you might remember for example when we talked about Bilal and Khabab and Suhaib and they passed by Abu Sufyan on the day of Fath Mecca and they said that the swords of Allah did not reach the throats of the enemies of Allah they were not happy right this was a man that they fought for two decades and it was hard for them to accept suddenly that he would be amongst them and this is natural and so this gives us a way to actually deal with some of the wisdom and the compassion of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in a different way right in a way that's instructive but in a way that also shows that the companions had a hard time dealing with this remember when Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala anhum censored Bilal and Khabab and Suhaib on the day of Fath Mecca radiAllahu anhum ajma'een the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam sided with who he said that you may have made them angry oh Abu Bakr and if you did then you would have made Allah angry okay not that Abu Bakr was wrong in saying that that's not something that should be said but that look their experience was very different in the experience of Abu Bakr these people were tortured by these elites of Quraysh and they you know they met them in battle and they were you know they had
their family members killed by them they had a very different experience so there's a layer of that a natural layer of resentment it was hard it's not going to be easy there has to be a period where the tensions are going to ease a bit so Ibn Abbas radiAllahu anhum he says that the Muslims didn't look to Abu Sufyan with any respect nor did they sit in his company and Abu Sufyan asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam three things he said Ya Rasool Allah confer upon me three things and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam he he responded to all three he said that I have the best and most beautiful daughter in Umm Habiba so you know marry her the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said okay yes now of course the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is already married to her so one way to look at this is this is simply affirming once again that look you've already given me this favor and marrying my daughter and remember Abu Sufyan was happy even as a non-Muslim that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam married Umm Habiba then he said secondly he asked Muawiyah he said accept Muawiyah to serve that you would allow him to be a scribe in your presence so the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said yes then he said and allow me to be a commander in the army so that I can fight against the disbelievers the same way that I used to fight against the Muslims and the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said yes Abu Zumail who he witnessed this he said that had he not asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam for these things then the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would not have conferred them upon him but it was the habit of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam to respond to people's requests so this was the good khuluq the good character of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in responding to the people's requests and you look at this and SubhanAllah there is more to this when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam entered into Mecca, Wazna al-Abbas radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu said to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi
Wasallam Ya Rasulullah as you enter into Mecca make sure that you Abu Sufyan is a proud man give him his recognition if you can so they should be grateful if the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam does not kill them for all that they have done to the Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and to the others but what does the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam do when he comes into Mecca and he says that the people are safe he says what man dakhala daar Abu Sufyan whoever enters into the home of Abu Sufyan fa huwa aaman then he is safe he gave Abu Sufyan a place right recognized his leadership and what he was doing in conquest of Mecca this was not to crush the people now this was to actually crush the idols and what they represented right this was not the ego of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam this was the mission and the cause to which he belonged and this is such a remarkable you know incident right that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam gave the request of al-Abbas radiallahu ta'ala anhu to respect Abu Sufyan to mention him by name and he gave the respect to Abu Sufyan when Abu Sufyan asked the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam those three questions and I want to reflect on this for a moment the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had a way with forgiveness and he had a way of moving forward and looking to the possibility of these people the potential of these people after all the horrible things that they had done he had that heart with Umar radiallahu ta'ala anhu he had that heart with people early on that were enemies and people that later on embraced Islam he had that heart with Khalid radiallahu ta'ala anhu right Amr ibn al-As and who benefited as a result of that the community moved forward as a result of that right these people brought tremendous contributions to Islam as a result of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam forgiveness and his way forward with them his forbearance towards them his lenience towards them the
lenience to ikrama Ikrama who was also the enemy of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam who you know the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam had initially named him he as someone to be targeted right Ikrama repented to Allah subhanahu Ta'ala and he became a part of the community of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam once you were part of the community of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam you were going to be treated like a part of the community so what is the Prophet sa into Ikrama by mentioning he is father Abu Jahl mention Abu Jahl to him. SubhanAllah, Abu Jahl, the Fir'aun of this ummah who tortured the Prophet ﷺ the way that he tortured him, who inflicted all sorts of psychological and emotional torture on the Prophet ﷺ and Rasulullah ﷺ says don't hurt his son by mentioning his name. What ends up as a result of that? Iqrama dies as Shaheed, right? In such a noble way, becomes such a noble companion of the Prophet ﷺ and dies as a martyr in Islam. Abu Sufyan, his wife, ordered Hamza radiyallahu anhu's liver cut and chewed, right? The Prophet ﷺ accepted the repentance of Abu Sufyan and Hind herself. That's a hard thing for anyone to do. So it's not like the Prophet ﷺ was forgiving people that did him no harm but did harm to other members of the community. These were people that caused him immense pain, immense pain, but the Prophet ﷺ had a way with forgiveness and encompassing them and moving forward in a way that he could truly bring about reconciliation within the community. But, but the beautiful perfection of the Prophet ﷺ is what? Did the Prophet ﷺ tell Abu Sufyan to get up on the Ka'bah and call Adhan? No. The Prophet ﷺ put Bilal radiyallahu ta'ala anhu on top of the Ka'bah to call Adhan. So the Prophet ﷺ did not remove Bilal or replace him, but he also didn't disgrace Abu Sufyan. Remember that these people's
main complaint, they wouldn't even sit with the Prophet ﷺ in the presence of the Mustada'afeen, of the weak and the oppressed. The Prophet ﷺ still kept them in the highest of positions, still continued to honor them, still showed loyalty to them. So this was the beautiful, you know, example of the Prophet ﷺ, which is not an easy example to follow, not as an individual nor as a community, of encompassing and always keeping his eye towards growth and to the benefit of the deen and the benefit of the community and being able to fit things so perfectly. So he would accept them ﷺ, but he would not overlap or he would not put them above those that Islam was built on their backs. هل ترزقون وتنصرون إلا بضعفائكم? Are you given victory or the aid of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala except by the way that you treat your most vulnerable, except by the way that you treat the oppressed. So this is a very powerful, you know, example of that and subhanAllah Abu Sufyan goes on to fight in, you know, as a commander amongst the Muslims and he dies in battle. Who would have thought, right, the man who was persecuting them and fighting against them dies in battle in that regard. And Muawiyah of course radiyaAllahu anhu goes on to play an immense role, right, in the community and things of that sort. So she lived to see, Umm Habibah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu lived to see her brother rise to power and getting back to Umm Habibah, one of the things that we learned from Umm Habibah is that she avoided politics and she avoided privilege. She did not want to be privileged. In the time when the Umayyad dynasty was, you know, was flourishing before her eyes, she did not want any type of privilege. She did not want any power. She avoided the fitan, she avoided the tribulations, the trials and tribulations of the time and she continued to dedicate her life to
worship, to hadith, to teaching Islam and of course rose to be the third in rank amongst the female narrators of hadith as we mentioned. So she teaches us in that regard as well and let's talk about her legacy for a bit in that regard. Umm Habibah radiyaAllahu ta'ala anhu would narrate 65 hadith, 10 of which are in Bukhari, 8 of which are in Sahih Muslim and some of the most important concepts of Islam are taken from her hadith. For one, as we said, Muawiyah and An-Ambasa would narrate from her, her brothers would narrate from her, as did her daughter Habibah. So the one daughter Habibah actually married Dawood ibn Urwa ibn Mas'ud, the famous Urwa ibn Mas'ud who was the chief negotiator of Quraysh or one of the chief negotiators of Quraysh in Hudaybiyyah. Dawood ibn Urwa ibn Mas'ud marries her daughter Habibah. All of them narrate hadith from her. One of her primary students becomes Zainab bint Umm Salama, right, bint Abi Salama, who we spoke about in great detail. Urwa ibn Zubair also learned from her and narrated from her radiAllahu ta'ala anha. So again an important look at the seerah, in Abyssinia, an important look at the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam through her eyes. And when I say there are some some important concepts and narrations, I want to actually go through those inshallah ta'ala, but before that, before that I get to those actually inshallah, let me mention two incidents which I think are very important. One of them is when Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu was under siege. As we said Umm Habibah avoided the fitna, she didn't take part in the fitna, and when the people of fitna placed Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu under siege, Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala anha, she had come on a mule and she hid water under her garments because remember they forbade Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu
from being able to even drink water. The one who purchased the wells for the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, the one who expanded the masjid, the one who did all of these acts of kindness and he was forbidden from benefiting from the very endowments that he set up radiAllahu ta'ala anhu. So there was an you know an understanding even amongst the people of fitna that the wives of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam were to be treated differently. And Umm Habibah wanted to use her privilege in that regard to help Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu. So Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala anha is riding a mule on her way to Uthman radiAllahu ta'ala anhu and the people of fitna move aside but then one young man stands up and says to her what are you doing in front of her. So one, and this shows you the hardening of the heart of the Khawarij, the making of the Khawarij. These people would read Quran, they would quote verses but they don't even have the decency to respect the wife of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. So a young man stands in front of Umm Habibah and says what do you want? And Umm Habibah is stunned that this young man has the nerve to do that. And then after that he actually lifts her garment and he takes the water and he throws it to the ground. Which was another stunning thing. I mean imagine the punishment of this young man that would lift the garment of the wife of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in front of the people and take the water vessel and break it. Not only that and this is very nasty, he cut the rope of the mule, the reins of the mule that Umm Habibah was riding so the mule went wild and Umm Habibah fell off of the mule in front of everyone. The wife of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. The mother of the believers and these people, these young men who are the blueprints for all the extremists you know or the Khawarij likes that come after them is not making a connection right. I mean subhanAllah these people are holding under siege Uthman radiAllahu Anhu married two daughters of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and now insulting the mother of the believers, the wife of the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam in such a horrific manner in front of all the people embarrassing her. This young man who had the nerve to do that and that was actually the incident that made Uthman radiAllahu Anhu order that all the Ummahatul Mu'mineen go to Mecca. So before his assassination Uthman radiAllahu Anhu sent all of the wives of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam to Mecca to avoid because he didn't want them to be harmed. So this shows you the nobility of Umm Habibah and you know subhanAllah a very unfortunate incident that took place with her. We also see at the time of her death and this is a beautiful narration unlike the one that we just recounted. Aisha radiAllahu Anhu she narrates the death of Umm Habibah. Umm Habibah lived for a very long time shunning politics, shunning this you know the civil wars and shunning all of these things and she called for Aisha and she said to Aisha radiAllahu Anhu as she was dying she said listen قَدْ كَانَ يَكُونُ بَيْنَنَا مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَ الضَّرَائِرِ فَغَفَرَ اللَّهُ لِي وَلَكِ مَا كَانَ مِن ذَٰلِكِ She said listen there used to occur from us or between us the types of things that are expected right you know in our situation. We used to argue sometimes sometimes we got into it. These were things that were expected and she said so may Allah forgive me and you for all of those things. So she's asking for forgiveness. May Allah forgive me and you for all of those things. So Aisha radiAllahu Anhu she responded to Umm Habibah. She said غَفَرَ اللَّهُ لَكِ ذَلِكَ كُلُّ وَحَلَّ لَكِ مِن ذَلِكِ She said may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala forgive you for all of those things and release you from any type of accountability for that. May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala release you from anything of that. Of course Umm Habibah is a dying woman. She's seeking forgiveness because that's what we're supposed to do as Muslims right as believers and she doesn't want to be held accountable in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala. She wants to bury any type of arguments or any type of hatchet.
And Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu responded and said of course you're forgiven and may Allah release you from any type of accountability in that regard. So Umm Habibah she smiled and she said you've made me happy may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala make you happy and Aisha radiAllahu Anhu says she then she then called Arsalat ila Umm Salama she called for Umm Salama faqalat laha mitha thalik and they had a similar conversation. So subhanAllah beautiful form of seeking forgiveness at the end of her life between her and and Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu and then Umm Salama radiAllahu Anhu the three most prominent female narrators of hadith and some of the greatest scholars of this deen and of course all three of them are our mothers our Ummahatul Mu'mineen. And I want to end inshaAllah ta'ala with this legacy of hers which I think is a very significant one. One of the most famous hadith practices in Islam is narrated by Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu and that is when the Prophet sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam said man salla ithnata ashrata raka'a fi yawmin wa layla bunya lahu bihinna baytun fil jannah. That whoever prays in a day or a night 12 raka'as Allah will build them a house in paradise. Umm Habibah is the narrator of that hadith. So obviously the practice of praying 12 raka'as the Sunnah of the Prophet sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam just like with all the wives of the Prophet sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam we get a dimension but Umm Habibah is the narrator of that hadith. But the way she narrates the hadith is very beautiful. When she narrated the hadith qalat Umm Habibah Umm Habibah says fama taraktuhunna mundu sam'atuhunna min Rasulillahi sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam I never left off those 12 raka'as since I heard them from the Messenger of Allah sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam wa qala anbasa and anbasa says fama taraktuhunna mundu sam'atuhunna min Umm Habibah. Anbasa says and I never left off those 12 raka'as since I heard
them from Umm Habibah and then Amr ibn Aus says ma taraktuhunna mundu sam'atuhunna min anbasa I never left those 12 raka'as since I heard them from anbasa. Wa qala al Nu'man ibn Salim ma taraktuhunna mundu sam'atuhunna min Amr ibn Aus. He said I never left off those 12 raka'as from the day that I heard it from Amr ibn Aus. SubhanAllah this hadith in Sahih Muslim is so beautiful because it shows you this was not just narrating words to these people. Every one of the people starting from Umm Habibah to every single person in the chain of narrators is affirming that you know what I didn't just hear that these 12 raka'as get you a place in Jannah. I made sure that I always pray 12 raka'as in the day or in the night of Sunnah so that beautiful Sunnah that we have of course most commonly carried out with the two raka'as before Fajr, four before Dhuhr, two after Dhuhr, two after Maghrib and two after Isha would equal 12 raka'as that is from Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala Anha. We also see from Umm Habibah radiAllahu Anha that the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam says whoever performs four raka'as before Dhuhr and four after Dhuhr Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will Haramahullahu ala n-nar. Allah will forbid that person from the fire. Another hadith where the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said and this is narrated by Umm Habibah her brother Anbasa ibn Abi Sufyan narrates from her that there is no believing slave who prays four raka'as after Dhuhr that whose face will ever be touched by the fire and this is this is a beautiful hadith that we find it's also an authentic one of Sunan Nasa'i so all of you know the narrations in that genre if you will of the established practice of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam even if it was not something of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam would always do but to pray four raka'as before Dhuhr and four after is also through Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala Anha with the reward being narrated as well. We also see some of the narrations of the
Hajj of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam as she was blessed to accompany the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam on his Hajj narrated there some of the narrations regarding women's issues similar to Umm Salama though not in the same quantity and obviously as we said the prohibition of the marriage of sisters and the prohibition of the marriage through Durra bint Umm Salama these are all things that we get through the lens of Umm Habibah radiAllahu ta'ala Anha but more than that every single time a person hears has heard the prayer of of the Sunan of Dhuhr and does so or the Sunan of 12 and does so acting upon her advice and her practice and her narration we pray that she has a share of that and so much more in giving us that legacy that that that window into the life and Abyssinia of the companions and of course the life of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam may Allah be pleased with her and her family may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'ala join us with our mothers with the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam with the companions with the righteous with the martyrs and the highest level of Jannatul Firdaus Allahuma Ameen Inshallah ta'ala I will see you in a month Inshallah ta'ala for the first but as I said we'll have other things along the way JazakumAllahu Khayran Wassalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
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