# Juz 5: You Can’t Fight Fire with Fire | Ust. Fatima Lette

**Author:** Dr. Omar Suleiman
**Series:** Qur’an 30 for 30 | Season 7
**Published:** 2026-02-22
**YouTube:** https://youtu.be/gHx4kQkM1Wc
**URL:** https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-5
**Topics:** Faith, Quran

## Summary
In this Juz 5 session of Quran 30 for 30, Ustadhah Fatima Lette joins Shaykh Omar Suleiman and Shaykh Abdullah Oduro to explore the major themes of Juz 5, which centers on Surah An-Nisa. The discussion opens with Allah's role as the All-Knowing Lawgiver whose laws are crafted with full awareness of human nature, past nations, and future outcomes. Drawing on An-Nisa 4:26-28, the speakers highlight that Allah's intention behind His rulings (ahkam) is to lighten the burden on humanity, while those who follow their desires seek to lead people entirely astray. Ustadhah Fatima emphasizes that Surah An-Nisa is not merely a list of individual rulings but a communal guide on how to be fully human — restraining the animalistic self and living with dignity in society, family, and home. The session then focuses on verse 4:45, 'Allah knows best who your enemies are, and Allah is sufficient as a Guardian (Wali) and Helper (Nasir),' exploring how human beings often misplace their trust in people who show superficial kindness, while Allah alone is the true protector who accompanies and champions the believer. The conversation then turns to divorce (verse 4:130), where Allah promises to enrich both parties from His bounty if they separate, reminding believers that destructive post-divorce behavior reflects both a lack of taqwa and a lack of tawakkul in Allah. The speakers stress the importance of surrounding oneself with righteous advisors whose counsel aligns with the Quran, and they close by encouraging viewers to use Ramadan to build genuine God-consciousness (taqwa).

## Key Points
- Allah presents Himself in Juz 5 as the All-Knowing Lawgiver whose laws account for human weakness, the wisdom of past nations, and future outcomes.
- Surah An-Nisa's rulings are not merely individual but communal, teaching Muslims how to live with dignity in society, family, and the home.
- Allah's intention behind His laws is to lighten the burden on humanity (يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ أَن يُخَفِّفَ عَنكُمْ), while those who follow desires seek to lead people entirely astray.
- Human beings are created weak (ضَعِيفًا), meaning they are easily captivated by desires and emotions, which is why divine law and guidance are essential.
- Allah knows your enemies better than you do (وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِأَعْدَائِكُمْ), and superficial kindness from others does not guarantee sincere friendship or loyalty.
- Allah being Wali (Guardian) means He accompanies the believer on their journey, while being Nasir (Helper) means He champions and clears the path ahead.
- Placing total trust in human beings leads to disappointment; only Allah deserves complete reliance, as all humans share the quality of weakness.
- In the context of divorce (An-Nisa 4:130), Allah promises to enrich both parties from His bounty, urging believers to avoid destructive revenge-driven behavior.
- Destructive post-divorce behavior often reflects not only a lack of taqwa but also a lack of tawakkul — a failure to trust that Allah will provide a better future.
- The Quran should serve as the filter for identifying righteous friends and advisors, especially during difficult personal trials like divorce.

## Chapters
- 0:00 Introduction
- 1:21 Why Allah has given us laws
- 7:00 The rulings in Surah al-Nisa
- 12:25 Allah knows who your real enemies are
- 17:09 Allah is protecting you from all sides
- 21:40 Remember al-Wasi and al-Hakeem in marriage and divorce

## Transcript
**[0:05]** You don't get to fight fire with fire. You don't get to be evil because somebody else is evil. And so a lot of the rulings that we see come up in Surah An-Nisa, they're not just individual, but they're actually communal. It's about how to deal with people. It's about how you are to be in your society.

**[0:20]** When Allah is disclosing to us His intention behind His ahkam, the reason behind this particular revelation, this is where we should put our magnifying glasses on. And really say SubhanAllah, يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ أَن يُخَفِّفَ عَنكُمْ that Allah wants to lighten the burden upon you. Good nasihah is so important to find, like

**[0:38]** good advice, good people around you so important to find. And the filter becomes the Qur'an. Who's a righteous friend right now? What the Qur'an deems as a righteous friend. السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته everyone. Welcome back to

**[0:54]** Qur'an 30 for 30. Alhamdulillah rabbil alamin. We are now on Juz' 5 and Day 5, and we want to remind you, please keep those donations strong. You don't know how much of an impact your donation is making bi'idhnillahi ta'ala. So rule of thumb: if you donated last year, donate at least the same amount this year, insha'Allah

**[1:11]** ta'ala, and try to get somebody else involved in the khair bi'idhnillah. And if it's your first time, then try to push yourself as well bi'idhnillahi ta'ala. We need your support, and إن شاء الله تعالى, we will continue to rise to the call بإذن الله تعالى and do as much as we can to be there, not just for

**[1:27]** you, but for millions of people around the world بإذن الله تعالى with this beautiful message of Islam. الحمد لله رب العالمين. Blessed as always to have Shaykh Abdullah Oduro. I love it when he's sitting next to me, ماشاء الله. And we have with us, الحمد لله, Ustadhah Fatima Lette.

**[1:42]** This is your third time, right? Yes. الحمد لله رب العالمين. الحمد لله. So by popular demand, ماشاء الله. So we're happy to have you back, والحمد لله. And the Juz' that we are in is Juz' 5. So we start off with سورة النساء, and I promised that it wasn't that we'll bring a female guest

**[1:58]** for سورة النساء. It wasn't that. It was, سبحان الله, just so it happens by the قدر of Allah, we mix things, الحمد لله, the guests and match the أجزاء. And we have سورة النساء. But the overall way that Allah سبحانه وتعالى talks about Himself in this Juz' is as a lawgiver. And this is actually the first

**[2:14]** of several أجزاء where Allah عز وجل speaks about Himself in the capacity of the Lawgiver, سبحانه وتعالى. And in particular here, you know, a lawgiver who understands hidden motivations, who understands hidden betrayals, who

**[2:31]** understands hidden wisdoms, who knows things from the past that perhaps you're not privy to, who understands the present in a way that you don't, and who knows what's to come in the future. And the law is crafted with that. So there's a lot, you know, in this Juz' about the laws as they pertain to women,

**[2:49]** to family, to inheritance, to domestic dispute. And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala actually grounding all of that in the fact that He knows the intent of the law. So actually, don't just read this Juz' with that lens of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, but in fact, the next three

**[3:04]** Juz', really, where a lot of the lawgiving is happening, especially when we get into Surah Al-Ma'idah as well. So here, let's just start off in Surah An-Nisa, verse 26, يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ لِيُبَيِّنَ لَكُمْ وَيَهْدِيَكُمْ سُنَنَ الَّذِينَ مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ وَيَتُوبَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَاللَّهُ

**[3:20]** عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ Now, by the way, I've talked about this set of verses before, but I want to talk about it from a different angle. Firstly, Allah 'Azza wa Jall wants to make things clear for you and guide you to the noble ways of those who came before you. You don't know those that came before you, and you don't know if there's

**[3:36]** historical revisionism or how things necessarily worked out or panned out. You're able to collect what you are through what has been passed down of the people that came before, but Allah created them, and He knew their most private moments, and He knows everything that happened with them, what worked, what didn't work. And

**[3:52]** so Allah is saying, "I want to give you now this crystallized Shari'ah, this crystallized law that takes into account the noble ways of those that came before you, and to turn to you in mercy." And of course, as Ibn Hajar رحمه الله comments on a group of ahadith

**[4:08]** about the Prophet (ﷺ) where he talks about the nature of the religion of Islam, that it's the easiest of the laws that were given to the prophets, right? SubhanAllah, because it actually is the most accommodating. There are many concessions in the dietary restrictions, in the prayer, and the ahkam, the rulings

**[4:26]** as they relate to fasting and beyond, right? So because it's the last law and it's universal, it's meant to be accommodating. And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is 'Alimun Hakim. He's the All-Knowing, the All-Wise. وَاللَّهُ يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَتُوبَ عَلَيْكُمْ Allah wants to turn to you in

**[4:43]** repentance. So He's setting you up to succeed, not setting you up to fail. He's actually setting you up to succeed. But here Allah عز وجل mentions the intentions of those that are calling you away from Him. وَيُرِيدُ الَّذِينَ يَتَّبِعُونَ الشَّهَوَاتِ أَنْ تَمِيلُوا مَيْلًا عَظِيمًا

**[4:58]** And those that follow their desires, they wish to see you deviate entirely from Allah's way. So they actually want to set you up for failure, even though they come to you with, you know, you only have one life to live. You know, live your life in a way that's going to be fulfilling. Do you. All of these, you

**[5:17]** know, slogans and mottos that are passed as being for self-improvement and inspiration, but actually being deeply narcissistic, individualistic, greedy, corporate, you know, slogans, right, that are given to people. Do you. You're going to be, you know, this is what's going

**[5:33]** to make you happy. It's in this can. It's in this product. It's in this trend. And Allah is saying these people are actually trying to ruin you, right? They come off as sincere advisors. So does Shaytan, by the way, right? As a sincere advisor. They're really trying to ruin your life and your afterlife. And يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ أَنْ

**[5:50]** يُخَفِّفَ عَنْكُمْ وَخُلِقَ الْإِنْسَانُ ضَعِيفًا And Allah wants to lighten your burden along the way. And human beings were created weak. The weak part here is not necessarily in regards to physical weakness, right? In fact,

**[6:05]** it's not that. Weak in terms of what? We're weak in our assessment. We're weak in our emotions sometimes. And some of us, SubhanAllah, are stronger than others. Like Shaykh Abdullah is undoubtedly stronger than me physically, Alhamdulillahi Rabbil 'Alamin, and in every other way, I'm sure. But you know, like when we talk about the people

**[6:21]** of Gaza, like mental strength, emotional strength, spiritual strength, right? There's a different type of weakness and the strength of heart and the strength of mind and strength of capacity. Human beings are in their nature created weak because they are easily captivated by what? Their shahawat, their desires. So a lot of ulama

**[6:38]** connect this back to the previous verse. And like we become deceived by our desires and we become deluded by our desires. And so the law takes into consideration all of that. And then there is this one verse that, insha'Allah ta'ala, I'll end with, then we'll pivot to the discussion bi'idhnillah. إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَظْلِمُ

**[6:55]** مِثْقَالَ ذَرَّةٍ ۖ وَإِن تَكُ حَسَنَةً يُضَاعِفْهَا وَيُؤْتِ مِن لَّدُنْهُ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says that indeed Allah does not wrong anyone, not even an atom's weight. And if it is a good deed, He will multiply it many times over and He

**[7:11]** will give you a great reward out of His grace. So what's going to happen here is there's going to be a lot about people and the different people that you're going to come into contact with and sometimes dispute with and your enemies and your

**[7:26]** friends and how that all comes together and how Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is not just your most stable friend and protector and your only true guardian, but how Allah عز وجل knows the nature of people around you. And Allah سبحانه وتعالى has given laws in accordance with what

**[7:42]** He knows of your nature and what He knows of the nature of people around you. So إن شاء الله we'll start with that, then we'll get into the specifics. Shaykh Abdullah, anything that you want to say in regards to that, إن شاء الله? No, I mean, it's beautiful how you touch on the fact that Allah سبحانه وتعالى, His awareness

**[7:59]** and our lack of awareness. And because, you know, it's when learning the first pillar of Islam and the oneness of Allah سبحانه وتعالى and how the whole concept of tawhid and worshiping Him by Himself because of His qualities and because of the qualities you have, that Allah

**[8:15]** has naturally given us that innate desire and that innate connection of recognizing there is a خالق، الرازق، المدبر, there is a Creator, Sustainer, the one that has control over all things. But the challenge that we have is being that we are created weak, you know, falling victim to our desires and letting those desires control us

**[8:31]** and steer us. You know, like you mentioned, for example, our emotions, not letting our emotions steer us, but knowing that emotions have the potential to steer us in ways that we may regret. And سبحان الله, there's even أحكام, there's even rulings in Islam that if you were to do something based on being driven by

**[8:48]** an emotion in a very intense way, that one could be held accountable for that. You find the scholars disagree if someone wants to do talaq al-ghadban, for example, divorce, and they were really angry. They say that there are stages of that. So that's just proof of we as human beings need something greater than ourselves to rely

**[9:04]** on, to have as a wakil, you know, to have as someone that we trust in at all times. So I think it's beautiful here when Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is mentioning these verses that He wants this, He wants that. When Allah is disclosing to us His intention behind His ahkam, the scholars call this 'ilal, yani, what is

**[9:23]** the reason behind the rulings or the reason behind this particular revelation? When Allah discloses that, this is where we should put our magnifying glasses on and really say, SubhanAllah, يُرِيدُ اللَّهُ أَنْ يُخَفِّفَ عَنْكُمْ that Allah wants to lighten the burden upon you. But what's so beautiful about this is that, you know,

**[9:40]** just as we as human beings have standards, and because of our weakness, we may compromise those standards, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has His standards as well. He has His hudud. Even though He wants this, He still is 'adl, and He still may punish, and He still may reward.

**[9:57]** And at the same time, there are people that are enemies of you, that are enemies of Islam, and it's up to you to choose which one are you going to go with. Are you going to go with that person, that place, or that thing that you're emotionally attached to, which could be a sign of weakness?

**[10:14]** Or are you going to go to the one that you already know inherently gives you the inner strength to fight that weakness? Beautiful. And that's what's so important. And that's a benefit that I really hearing those verses is, ماشاء الله, very enlightening. الحمد لله. Sister Fatima, any general reflections?

**[10:29]** Yeah, I think one of the beauties of Juz' 5 and specifically like سورة النساء, a lot of times when you are looking into like the surah and looking into the background of it and when it was revealed and what's going on, you see a lot of rulings, right? And you say, okay, this is maybe الله سبحانه وتعالى

**[10:44]** telling us to do X, Y, and Z because we need structure, we need boundaries. When truly سورة النساء, سورة المائدة, all of these different surahs are actually teaching us how to be human. It's a lot of like, if you let your animalistic side take over, then you will act just like that, an animal. And so الله

**[11:01]** سبحانه وتعالى is literally giving us the understanding of what it means that He created us in our best form and how to actually be in your best form. And so a lot of the rulings that we see come up in سورة النساء, they're not just individual, but they're actually communal. It's about how to deal

**[11:18]** with people. It's about how you are to be in your society and then how you are in your home. Like biggest tyrants are the tyrants inside of their home, and then they go out and they tyrannize with other people, right? And so Allah ﷻ is showing us this in these surahs. And a big part of what سورة النساء came and brought forward was

**[11:37]** overturning a lot of the mindset that people had in Makkah, right? So pre-Islamic Arabia, the no respect and regard for people's rights, the no respect and regard for women, the no respect and regard for inheritance, the no respect and regard for individuals as like a human being.

**[11:54]** And Allah ﷻ, obviously, in all the other surahs, spent a lot of time working on people's mind frame and their mindset and the spirituality aspect of it. But now it's time to put that into practice. You know, now it's time for you to truly have these boundaries to abide by. And the Sahabah did not flinch

**[12:11]** when they came out because the mindset was there. Like this is what Allah ﷻ had built within the individual. So سورة النساء is such a beautiful surah that has rulings inside of it. Juz' 5 has rulings inside of it, but ultimately it's really where it's kind

**[12:27]** of like the put your money where your mouth is moment, you know? And Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is saying when other people are not doing what they're supposed to be doing, when other people are not having the purest intention, it doesn't mean that you get to follow in that. You know, you don't get to be — you don't get to fight fire with fire. You don't get to be

**[12:44]** evil because somebody else is evil, right? You recognize that Allah is the one who's there to help you. You recognize that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the one who's the one who's closest to you. And if someone's closest to you and they give you rulings or they give you advice or they're there for you and they

**[13:00]** tell you something, then you listen to that. But you don't listen to the one that doesn't have the same morals, values, ethics, or even mind frame that you have. And so it's such a beautiful, beautiful Juz'. Jazak Allah khair. And that's a perfect pivot to our first ayah

**[13:16]** where we can go a little bit deeper as well. Verse 45. وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِأَعْدَائِكُمْ ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ وَلِيًّا وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ نَصِيرًا ۚ So first of all, Allah knows who your enemies are. You don't know who your enemies are. A lot of times, SubhanAllah, we think we know people, and someone that's your enemy today

**[13:33]** could be your best friend tomorrow. فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ Your staunchest enemy could become your protective friend. And this happened in the life of the Prophet (ﷺ), right? Umar (رضي الله عنه) is going out to kill him (ﷺ), and then the Muslims are walking behind Umar (رضي الله عنه) as a protector, right?

**[13:52]** The أعداء and the enemies and the friends, they switch sometimes, but there are also those that were hypocrites, and especially in a Madani context when they went to Madinah, that were showing the Prophet (ﷺ) a smile while harboring all sorts of evil intentions. And it's

**[14:10]** sometimes very hard to see past, you know, someone who shows you that they want for you good and kindness, but they actually want for you evil. So وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ بِأَعْدَائِكُمْ, Allah knows who your enemies are. But here's the interesting thing. وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ وَلِيًّا

**[14:25]** وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ نَصِيرًا, two names of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala here, and Allah is sufficient as a wali, as a guardian, and Allah is sufficient as a helper. So Ustadhah Fatima, how would you break this down in light of what we're speaking about? Yeah, so you know, this ayah in particular is very interesting because Allah

**[14:42]** Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, as you mentioned, He starts it off by saying Allah knows who your enemies are. He knows best, actually. He is the most knowing of who your enemies are. And I think one of the things that people, human beings, want more than anything is

**[14:58]** belonging. And so anyone that gives them a smile or like a tap on the shoulder or a pat on the shoulder or a hug or like shows an inch of kindness or "compassion," a person thinks like, oh, this person has what's best, my best interest at heart, right? You

**[15:14]** know, I'm from the South, so in Atlanta or in Georgia, we say like Southern hospitality. All three of us are from the South. This is true. I forgot. Texas, Louisiana. But yeah. Oh, Texas. You're right. Texas. I forgot all about that, right? So you could be standing next to somebody who truly actually hates you, and

**[15:31]** they will say, oh, thank you so much, sweetheart. Yes. Right. And so a person may take that, a person who's broken, a person who spends a lot of their time following their desire to try to fill that void of belonging and wanting, can take that and say, well, this person cares about me and they love me and they're

**[15:48]** there for me. And Allah سبحانه وتعالى is saying that just because somebody gives you this half smile or they give you this half-hearted pat on the shoulder or they pretend like they're doing something for you, it does not necessitate that that person loves you or cares for you or is your friend or your protector or will

**[16:05]** be there by your side. I think a lot of times, like especially us being, you know, Muslim and like being inside of different communities and going to work and going to school and all these things, we attach ourselves to people who are not good for us. And that's the reality of it. And we create

**[16:23]** this superhero image of these people. And then when things happen in the world like Gaza or the things that are happening in Congo or the things that are happening around the world to our brothers and sisters, people that we have such a close relationship with, even if we have not seen them, but we share faith, we share

**[16:38]** humanity, we share so much with them. And we're looking at these people that we put our trust in because they were a little bit kind to us, and they're silent, they're turning their face to the other side. And now we're all of a sudden heartbroken because this individual who never was sincere, never had your best

**[16:56]** interest at heart, but really just wanted something from you, you thought that was your best friend. And so Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, He says, وَكَفَى بِاللَّهِ, like don't go seeking yourself in other people, right? مَنْ عَرَفَ نَفْسَهُ عَرَفَ رَبَّهُ, the person who knows themselves knows who their

**[17:12]** Lord is, right? Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the one who's وَلِيًّا. He is your protector. He's your friend. He's the one who's by your side. وَكَفَى بِاللَّهِ نَصِيرًا, and know that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is not only your helper, but He's the one who has your back and your front. That's

**[17:28]** who's looking out for you. And it's important to know that. So I think one of the parts of this verse that really, really allows me to like reflect and really resonates with me is recognizing that when Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala puts someone sincere in my

**[17:43]** life, it's because Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is protecting me and He's helping me. But when Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala shows me someone's true colors, it's also because Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is protecting me and He's helping me. And it's important to open my eyes and open our eyes and realize that. He's by your side and He's also got your front and your back. And SubhanAllah,

**[17:59]** just quickly capture that وَلِيًّا نَصِيرًا, that difference? Yeah. So وَلِيًّا, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala being a close guardian, being a close friend, it has the understanding of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the one who's by your side, right? Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is protecting

**[18:15]** you. He's looking out for you, but He's by your side. He's going with you on that journey. And then when you look at Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala as نَصِيرًا, then you have that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the one who's championing for you and He's ahead of you, right? Imagine you're on a journey, like you're on a road trip and someone else is — you're following somebody in

**[18:34]** that road trip and you're following them in your car and you're going and they give you a call and they say, hey, watch out, there's a lot of potholes coming up or there's a road closure or the police are up here, make a left here, go this way. That person's looking out for you. They're trying to make sure that you make it to that journey safely, right? And then there's

**[18:51]** your person who's in the passenger side with you, right? They're keeping you awake. They're keeping you safe. They're saying, this journey is long. What do you want to eat? Can I get you some water? That is who Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is to us, but on a bigger scale in our entire life. And so Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala using these two names together, it is making

**[19:07]** it a complete circle of how Allah is protecting and taking care of a person. That's beautiful. I mean, in the verse, there are two words that stick out to me. If you say it's a verb and a word, Allah says, وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ, that He is the most

**[19:24]** knowledgeable. And then they call that, um, that's a superlative form to show that there may be people of knowledge. And as both of you both mentioned, there may be people that have impacted us in our lives and have turned out to be someone that didn't look out for our best interests or something happened in their life where we totally relied on

**[19:40]** them and we were "quote unquote" disappointed. But how many times is it that we were really disappointed? Because if we really thought about it, we totally put all of our trust in them when it should really only be Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, because the nature of the human being is, as was mentioned earlier, ضَعِيفًا, that we can't

**[19:58]** totally rely on, you know, every single aspect where if they had an intention to do something, they couldn't fulfill it. That's fine, because the nature of them is that we're all weak and they may, you know, we can't put all of our, you know, 100% in anyone except Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. So when He says, وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ,

**[20:16]** the most knowledgeable of the enemies and those that have the intention to harm you, that's the first thing. And the second thing is where He says, وَكَفَى بِاللَّهِ, and Allah is sufficient. You know, when we look at what's happening, as you mentioned, all around the world and knowing and seeing people, we never rely on what

**[20:34]** we see in front of us wholeheartedly. We rely on what Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala tells us about who we see and their characteristics or characteristics in general of when you see this or these types of people initially starting with Iman, the belief in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. How you mentioned earlier that brothers and sisters around the

**[20:51]** world that we're closer to them because of that baseline faith. And I think that's why this verse is so profound, because we always have to remember that Allah knows better than this person. If this person says something that goes against Allah's laws and legislations, Allah is the one that wants to lighten the load for me.

**[21:08]** يُخَفِّفُ عَنكُمْ. Allah is the one that wants to make it easy for me, but He has His standards, which is the Deen of Islam. Therefore, when I know that, when I know about His knowledge, it's enough for me to rely on Him because He is my wali and He is the one that I trust in. And it reminds

**[21:24]** me, I was, I was, you know, looking at, you know, about, you know, dads and their daughters. I was watching this video of my daughter and it's like, you know, when dads at the weddings, how they embarrass their daughters, which I, wherever the camera is, I'm planning to embarrass my daughter, insha'Allah. Alhamdulillah, just be ready. Um, you know, that's where the word

**[21:41]** for the guardian is the wali, the father of the daughter, the wali. He is the one that has her back and he's looking out for her best interest, even if it's for his own life, at the sake of his own life. You know, he said something, he said something to the groom. He said, "Look, if you're going to come to the house, you're going to beep the horn, you must be dropped off something because you're

**[21:57]** not picking her up. You know, you better come to the door." And that's the wali. It's like, "Look, you know, he has her back at the same time. He's going to be a source in all cases." So I think when Allah mentions He's all-knowing and asking ourselves, is Allah really enough for us in all situations? It's important for us to have that self-review.

**[22:13]** Yeah, man, I think I'm probably just going to be crying at my daughter's wedding, insha'Allah, if I live to see it. May Allah 'Azza wa Jall bless us and bless our children. Ameen. Give us sabr and strength and find them good spouses bi'idhnillah. Allahumma, ameen. All right, so I'm going to touch on a sore subject, and hopefully we'll still be able to stay within

**[22:30]** time, but it's a tough one. But it's directly related. Um, you come to verse 130 in Surah An-Nisa. وَإِن يَتَفَرَّقَا يُغْنِ اللَّهُ كُلًّا مِّن سَعَتِهِ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ وَاسِعًا حَكِيمًا But if they

**[22:45]** choose to separate, Allah will enrich both of them from His bounties. And Allah is ever bountiful, all wise, وَاسِعٌ حَكِيمٌ This is talking about divorce. And سبحان الله, what nikah and talaq do in terms of human relationships

**[23:02]** is unbelievable, right? Like this complete stranger that you're — you're not mahram to suddenly becomes your spouse in a moment with one word, right? قَبِلْتُ And that's it. Suddenly, that's the closest person to you. And Allah

**[23:18]** Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has built a sacred bond, right? And they talk about the honeymoon phase and they talk about the engagement phase and how close people become and, uh, falling in love and being over, you know, head over heels. And then, سبحان الله, a divorce comes. And suddenly, like the other person is Fir'awn, the other

**[23:37]** person is Iblis, like the enmity, the hatred, even if that's the mother of your child, that's the father of your child, that person becomes the devil, right? And that's where taqwa is so important. And sometimes the

**[23:53]** ill treatment or the lack of fear of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala that someone has, uh, once they get a divorce, either through financial abuse or through, um, abusing, uh, with the rights of children or slandering reputation, sometimes it's not just a lack of taqwa in

**[24:09]** the sense of like observing the limits of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and not accruing the sins, right? Even if, by the way, you were initially wronged in the divorce, sometimes people in their revenge path, they transgress, right? But there's another thing. Sometimes there's a lack of tawakkul in that. There's also a lack of trust in Allah because sometimes the person's

**[24:26]** thinking like, "Oh, well, I'm never going to get married again, so I might as well just burn it down." Yeah, you know, so this is it for me. This is the end of the road. So I'm going to make sure it's the end of his road, the end of her road too. And I'm going to burn the carpet, you know, make

**[24:41]** sure that I constrict and destruct in every single way. And Allah 'Azza wa Jalla is saying, وَإِنْ يَتَفَرَّقَا يُغْنِ اللَّهُ كُلًّا مِنْ سَعَتِهِ ۚ Allah is going to enrich both of them from His bounty. وَكَانَ اللَّهُ وَاسِعًا حَكِيمًا And Allah is ever expansive and He's wise. Like He,

**[25:00]** it's not, He has the full bounty and He knows how to distribute it with wisdom, right? To pass it out with wisdom and distribute it with wisdom. Sometimes that bounty, that fadl is fil-akhirah, no doubt about it, right? But the point is, is like there can be

**[25:15]** a lack of taqwa and there can be a lack of tawakkul in the way people act. After a divorce, when suddenly the person that you love becomes an absolute enemy. So I want to open it up to y'all to. I think it's so interesting because of the next ayah. The next ayah, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says, وَلِلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ And then

**[25:33]** He takes the individual back to the purpose of life, right? He literally takes you outside of your individual problem. A lot of times people think this issue that I'm going through is like the worst thing possible, which is bad. It is hard. It is difficult. But then Allah Subhanahu

**[25:49]** wa Ta'ala shows you His greatness and belonging to Allah is whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth. And then He says, وَلَقَدْ وَصَّيْنَا الَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ وَإِيَّاكُمْ أَنِ اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ And then He says that He has enjoined,

**[26:05]** He has given the advice, the strict advice, the advice that you should abide by to the people who've been given Scripture before you, meaning like this is also a message for you. But look at what has been given to people before you in Scripture, that you should fear Allah. Yeah, you should have that God consciousness. You

**[26:22]** should have that awareness of Allah. And part of taqwa, part of having that God consciousness, that awareness of Allah is a combination of hope and fear. Yeah, like it's that fear that like I shouldn't do something, like I shouldn't do evil because someone's doing something bad to me, or I shouldn't do evil because I'm hurt, or I

**[26:39]** shouldn't do evil because I'm sad. Right? I should have that hope that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will make my situation better, that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will help me, that Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will be there for me to be able to get through this. And so it's like holistic where Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is acknowledging the emotion. He's acknowledging the

**[26:56]** difficulty, but He's saying there's good in store. And you need to zoom out of you for one second to see all of that good that Allah has in store. And I was just thinking about zooming back in, actually, because, you know, these verses, they may need to be read, you know, with the divorce lawyers at the same time.

**[27:11]** Or when you're signing a, writing a prenup or a postnup, you know, to really. Those are the people الَّذِينَ هُمْ أَعْدَاؤُكُمْ those lawyers, right? Those. What about the Muslim ones? We love you Muslim divorce lawyers. You know, we just have rahmah upon him or her. My brother's a lawyer, you know, so I gotta be careful. May Allah bless him and protect him.

**[27:27]** No, I think والله, you know, as they say, what is it? Marriages and inheritance when they're distributing the money as well. I mean, you'll see the — I want to say the best, you'll see the worst of them come out. And I think it's important. You know, one interesting thing I was, I was talking to my children one time is, you know, SubhanAllah, you can

**[27:43]** get married to someone, as you mentioned, but I don't know if you've ever experienced this. You'll be at a masjid and the, you know, brother will give salams, real polite salams to the sister, and they used to be married and they had kids, but now they're strangers. SubhanAllah, you just think about that. You've been married, you've been married to someone, you've had children with

**[27:59]** them, but you go through a divorce and now y'all are haram for each other. And that's just life. And that's why it's beautiful when you mention that verse and the protection that you have to have with the kids and that connection you have to have. But that person that you were once married to, make sure you try your best to do it amicably. And I think what's

**[28:15]** important is even before marriage, young brothers and sisters, look in the mirror and look at yourselves and have that introspection, especially in this month of Ramadan. Look at what you need to work on and ask Allah, trust in Him, but be practical. If you need to see a therapist, if you need to reach out to a friend, for the men and women, this is very,

**[28:32]** very important because when a child comes into your life, you have a huge responsibility. And that's what I think is SubhanAllah, when these verses hit, it's important for us to be responsible before even getting into this, this chapter of our lives. May Allah protect the families out there. Ameen. I know, Shaykh, like we

**[28:47]** could talk about this all night, man, but SubhanAllah, truly, like by the way, like Allah knows your enemies, the people that try to spoil marriages, the people that, the friends that talk to, that get in the ear of the husband, get in the ear of the wife, like

**[29:02]** you should move on from that, right? Not when there's like real reason, right? But like that try to ruin people's, يُفَرِّقُونَ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَزَوْجِهِ, those that divorce or that split a husband and a wife, your friends that tell you, take revenge, not

**[29:18]** just your haqq, not your rights, revenge and go do this and go do that. Um And yes, sometimes even the lawyers, like you'll see like couples that will uh fight over a house and then they'll end up both paying the lawyers, the equivalent of the house, like that lawyer that tells you, do this and do this and do that, sometimes like keep going and this and this

**[29:34]** and that, like the system ends up taking all your money. Like good nasihah is so important to find, like good advice, good people around you is so important to find. And the filter becomes the Qur'an, yeah, right? Like this is, who's telling me something righteous? Well, let's get back to what the Qur'an deems

**[29:51]** righteous. Who's a righteous friend right now? What the Qur'an deems as a righteous friend? Any final, final words? Yeah, just the last, I remember when we had the Man Cave show with one of the divorce lawyers, the Muslim divorce lawyers, he said that some of the lawyers will say, yes, when they get into a case, insha'Allah, you

**[30:06]** know, God willing, this will pay for our children's college. That's how much money they want to get. It's the saying that it'll pay for our — our no, I'm sorry, not our grandchildren's college. سبحان الله, raking in the money. Ya Allah protect us. Ustadhah Fatima, you know,

**[30:22]** honestly, in this fifth day of Ramadan, we're in the first ten days, and this is where, you know, the momentum sometimes starts to dip because we're going into a little bit of the next ten days. And so one of the things in the purposes of Ramadan is that taqwa, right? Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala tells us لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ that the purpose of fasting is to build that

**[30:40]** taqwa and that overall understanding and God consciousness. So I just hope that we are making those steps towards building that relationship with Allah. جزاكم الله خيرا. جزاك الله خير. Such an insightful session. May Allah bless you, Ustadhah Fatima. جزاك الله خير, Shaykh Abdullah. Insha'Allah, we will see you all tomorrow.

**[30:55]** والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته.

## Other Episodes in "Qur’an 30 for 30 | Season 7"
- [Juz 30: Love Al-Razzaq More Than Rizq | Sh. Navaid Aziz](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-30.md)
- [Juz 29: Your Spiritual Report Card  | Dr. Nazir Khan](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-29.md)
- [Juz 28: How To Truly Be Conscious of Allah | Dr. Jinan Yousef](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-28.md)
- [Juz 27: The Night You Give Everything | Sh. Abu Bakr Zoud](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-27.md)
- [Juz 26: Don’t Run From Struggle | Sh. Mikaeel Smith](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-26.md)
- [Juz 25: God Is Not A Mystery | Sh. Ibrahim Hindy](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-25.md)
- [Juz 24: Candid Conversations with Allah | Mufti Abdul Rahman Waheed](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-24.md)
- [Juz 23: Facing Your Trials With Honor | Dr. Farah Islam](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-23.md)
- [Juz 22: Appreciating Muhammad ﷺ | Sh. Omar Hajjaj](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-22.md)
- [Juz 21: Allah Is The Author of History | Sr. Sarah Sultan](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-21.md)
- [Juz 20: Allah’s Loud and Silent Revelations | Sh. Hisham Abu Yusuf](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-20.md)
- [Juz 19: What Makes You Valuable to Allah? | Ust. Roohi Tahir](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-19.md)
- [Juz 18: The Qur’an Is A Cure | Dr. Tesneem Alkiek](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-18.md)
- [Juz 17: When Allah Chooses You, How Will You Respond? | Sh. Yousef Wahb](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-17.md)
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- [Juz 15: Join the Heavens in Glorifying Allah | Sh. Mohamud Mohamed](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-15.md)
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- [Juz 9: How To Memorize Allah’s Names | Dr. Haifaa Younis](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-9.md)
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- [Juz 7: They Know Al-Lateef in Gaza | Dr. Farhan Abdul Azeez](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-7.md)
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- [Juz 3: How The Qur’an Makes You Rich | Dr. Tahir Wyatt](https://yaqeeninstitute.org/watch/series/quran-30-for-30-season-7/quran-30-for-30-season-7-juz-3.md)
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